On this week’s episode of Melody and Friends, Melody sits down with author and speaker Nate Larkin to discuss his decades long battle with pornography and sex addiction. Nate shares his story of why he spent hundreds of thousands of dollars on emotionless sex, what led him to recovery and how his marriage went from desolation to rebirth after his wife discovered his addicition. He shares practical ways to begin having conversations that build trust. He also discusses how pornography and sex addiction stifle our ability to be intimate and why intimacy is vital. Nate created the Samson Society, a community dedicated to creating brotherhood between recovering addicts, and he shares how today there are over 10,000 men connected experiencing real intimacy and finding freedom.

Our listeners can learn more about Nate Larkin, his book and The Samson Society by visiting the links below: https://samsonsociety.com/ , and https://www.amazon.com/Samson-Pirate-Monks-Authentic-Brotherhood/dp/0849914590#:~:text=Samson%20and%20the%20Pirate%20Monks,9780849914591%3A%20Amazon.com%3A%20Books 

Who is Nate Larkin?

Nate Larkin knows the pressure to live up to a public persona. He knows what it's like to have a secret that can destroy a career. He knows what it's like to quit. And He knows what it's like to find healing, deep friendships, and hope. Nate has a story that unfortunately too many people can relate with, addiction to pornography and sex. 

So in 2004, several of these friends formed a mutual aid society for Christian men called the Samson Society. Within the safety of the Samson Society, honest friendships have taken root and men are finding new power in their faith. Nate, who drafted the Society’s charter and designed its first meeting format, has written a book about his experiences entitled Samson and the Pirate Monks: Calling Men to Authentic Brotherhood, which was published by Thomas Nelson in February 2007. (He is also the author, with Darrell Waltrip, of Sundays Will Never Be the Same).

As of 2012, more than 250 local Samson Society groups are functioning in the United States, and others have started in other countries. A social networking website has been established to connect men who do not have access to a local meeting. Nate loves talking to men about their need for community and how they can overcome struggles together.

Things We Talk About in this Episode

• Why men often don’t want to look to external sources to find help for sex addiction and porn addiction.
• Why intimacy in a relationship is about so much more than sex and why it can be hard for men to realize that
• How contempt for a man’s own action in addiction can create contempt in the relationship and how to break them out of that mindset.
• Why having a community of sex addicts is important to recovery and how to overcome the voice in a man’s head saying they can recover on their own.