Dufflyn Lammers is a women’s relationship and recovery coach. If you find yourself at the end of a difficult relationship including those complicated by addiction and control issues or contemplating the end of a relationship, Dufflyn can teach you the skills needed to move through this phase and support you as a ‘Big Sister’ while you do it. John and Dufflyn discuss what it takes to keep a relationship healthy and happy using Dufflyn’s methods.  

 

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• Dufflyn works from the ‘outside in’ and ‘inside out’. ‘Outside in’ is the coaching part about goals, plans and accountability and ‘inside out’ is the use of Ideal Parent Figure Protocol.
• Ideal Parent Figure Protocol is an attachment based intervention for people who are struggling with attachment injury. It involves imagining ideal parents different from their real parents or anyone they know. With these new ideal ‘parents’ new healthy internal working models can be formed.
• Sometimes we forget that the skills we learn in dating are just as applicable within a relationship. The relationship rarely lives up to the ideal vision in your mind. 
• Attachment issues commonly lead to an addiction situation and Dufflyn hopes to break the cycle permanently.
• Dufflyn ended up in Paris after discovering a love for travelling alone and a handsome Frenchman. 

 

BEST MOMENTS

‘Each of us has a sort of love map inside of us and that love map determines how we operate in relationships and also how we see ourselves and how we see the world.’ – Dufflyn

‘So you’re giving them alternative choices to subconscious behaviours?’ - John 

‘I know that I myself came from being single for a long, long time, 12 years. And I came from this idea that once I found that perfect other person that everything was gonna be ok, ya know, unicorns and roses and puppy dogs.’ - Dufflyn

‘Now I’ve been living in Paris for a little over four years which has been a huge adjustment too. But, again, forcing me to develop more and more of those inner resources and resilience.’ - Dufflyn

 

GUEST RESOURCES

Www.dufflyn.com

 

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ABOUT THE HOST

I am John Kenny, The Relationship Guy - Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. 

Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.

 

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