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Finding the caregiving backup you need is possible and you can make it happen!
Finding a backup caregiver so you can get some time for yourself is essential but takes some planning. You might be thinking, "Finding the perfect caregiver would be a great luxury." This is not true.
First let's look at what the benefits are:
- Exposure to different people and experiences for your LO
- Time for you to spend doing whatever you need to do that adds value to your life
- Safe and planned dry runs in the case of an emergency need for help/backup
- Building confidence for the person you hire to one day help someone else or apply this to their own LO when needed
- Having a person to call when you need a 2 person approach for moving your LO in the case of an emergency.
Things to consider when selecting someone?
- Your LO personality ( be honest about their strengths and weaknesses)
- Do they need extra energy brought into the room or does that cause them anxiety?
- This caregiver does not have to interact just like you. The backup may be a nice change of pace for your LO so don’t take offense. Think about how you engage with other people. You might enjoy being around people that are very different from your spouse
- What are the absolute musts that the CG will need to be able to do for your day away?
If it is an option for your LO to get out with someone else, that is a great option too. Consider dropping them off at a location and then starting your outing/experience from there.
Watch what you do as from a third party perspective. Write down the flow of the day and times that you do things. It doesn’t have to be exact but it is easier to do this as the day is going on, in live time, than it is to sit and try to draw it all up from memory
Leave your expectations for perfection at the door. Make one absolute expectation be for no injuries and for fun.
Meet the objections your LO might express upfront:
Your LO objections might be related to - nervousness, control, antisocial behavior. Try this approach:
- Listen to them. Let them talk to you, share their thoughts. Don’t interrupt.
- Understand and repeat what you heard as an active listener.
- Respond calm, genuine feedback that validates their concern
- Confirm the plan you are establishing again in a positive light
Selecting a caregiver without initial skills in caregiving is okay as long as they have a heart of service and you feel comfortable with them ( although a Google search of their name isn't a bad idea either).
register for live workshop prior to July 29, 2021 https://wwwcaregiverbydesign.com/workshop and learn how to find freedom
Join me on FB: https://www.facebook.com/caregiverbydesign
Leave a review on apple itunes:
If you need more help/support on your caregiving journey, you can find it over at https://www.caregiverbydesign.com/coaching
Free training now : watch a short free video I created on coaching vs caregiving https://www.caregiverbydesign.com/freetraining
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Finding a backup caregiver so you can get some time for yourself is essential but takes some planning. You might be thinking, "Finding the perfect caregiver would be a great luxury." This is not true.
First let's look at what the benefits are:
- Exposure to different people and experiences for your LO
- Time for you to spend doing whatever you need to do that adds value to your life
- Safe and planned dry runs in the case of an emergency need for help/backup
- Building confidence for the person you hire to one day help someone else or apply this to their own LO when needed
- Having a person to call when you need a 2 person approach for moving your LO in the case of an emergency.
Things to consider when selecting someone?
- Your LO personality ( be honest about their strengths and weaknesses)
- Do they need extra energy brought into the room or does that cause them anxiety?
- This caregiver does not have to interact just like you. The backup may be a nice change of pace for your LO so don’t take offense. Think about how you engage with other people. You might enjoy being around people that are very different from your spouse
- What are the absolute musts that the CG will need to be able to do for your day away?
If it is an option for your LO to get out with someone else, that is a great option too. Consider dropping them off at a location and then starting your outing/experience from there.
Watch what you do as from a third party perspective. Write down the flow of the day and times that you do things. It doesn’t have to be exact but it is easier to do this as the day is going on, in live time, than it is to sit and try to draw it all up from memory
Leave your expectations for perfection at the door. Make one absolute expectation be for no injuries and for fun.
Meet the objections your LO might express upfront:
Your LO objections might be related to - nervousness, control, antisocial behavior. Try this approach:
- Listen to them. Let them talk to you, share their thoughts. Don’t interrupt.
- Understand and repeat what you heard as an active listener.
- Respond calm, genuine feedback that validates their concern
- Confirm the plan you are establishing again in a positive light
Selecting a caregiver without initial skills in caregiving is okay as long as they have a heart of service and you feel comfortable with them ( although a Google search of their name isn't a bad idea either).
register for live workshop prior to July 29, 2021 https://wwwcaregiverbydesign.com/workshop and learn how to find freedom
Join me on FB: https://www.facebook.com/caregiverbydesign
Leave a review on apple itunes:
If you need more help/support on your caregiving journey, you can find it over at https://www.caregiverbydesign.com/coaching
Free training now : watch a short free video I created on coaching vs caregiving https://www.caregiverbydesign.com/freetraining