Life is not about finding someone. It is about finding yourself to know you don't need a sexual partner to feel good about yourself or safe.  Then, you can live your purpose peacefully. Love is work from the inside out, not the outside in. Real love, peaceful love finds you when you have it inside. A person who wants the best of the best can't have it when they don't align as the best of the best within themselves. You can't fit a square into a hole that is the same size. Like wants like, or like attracts like. What you attract and is attracted back is who you are.  So, if the relationships are empty, then you're empty. It's easy to understand but not easy to fix.