File under: stuff married men should know and think about.

Emotional intimacy and physical sex are two wonderful aspects of a warm, life-giving marriage. The difficulty seems to hinge on how these two forces seem to move or fail to move in a coordinate motion. When it works - it works. When it fails - it really fails. Frustration is the most common result.

IF, however ....and this is a big IF...you can get a nice fire tornado moving, then brother - it can really warm up the place. Many guys are surprised to discover that a HUSBAND needs to be the prime-mover in this dynamic. Initiating emotional connection/intimacy is the first motion that might just get something moving in the right direction. Men need to govern the spin - the spin of the Fire Tornado.