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Fix Yourself First: Building Sexual Self-Esteem with Dr. Kristie Overstreet

We don’t often talk about our sex lives, but if there’s one thing I’ve learned, it’s that we, as moms, are not enjoying sex as much as we could be. What greater pleasure is there in life than having an intimate and satisfying connection with your partner? Today, we welcome Dr. Kristie Overstreet, clinical sexologist, psychotherapist, host of the Fix Yourself First Podcast, and author of Fix Yourself First: 25 Tips to Stop Ruining Your Relationship. She focuses on helping you build strong relationships through focusing first on the most important relationship you have: the one you have with yourself, to give you the power to create the life you deserve. You’ll hear all about her journey to becoming a clinical sexologist and psychotherapist after studying medicine for a year, before meeting a therapist for the first time, and how failing helped her to get to where she is today. She shares some of her own tumultuous story of relationships and sex, before finding her partner of 14 years, Rob. Dr. Overstreet tells us how the importance of sex in your relationship depends entirely on how much each partner values it, and introduces us to the concept of opening up a sexual buffet. She assures us that you can still have a healthy relationship even if you value sex differently from one another, provided there is no judgment and a willingness to meet one another’s needs. We hope you join us  to hear this and loads more pearls of wisdom from Dr. Overstreet today! 

Key Points From This Episode:

• How the importance of sex in your relationship depends on how each partner values it.
• How we define sex, and why you have to open up a sexual buffet.
• Why you can still have a healthy relationship even if you value sex differently.
• Why she tells everyone in relationships to stop assuming their partners are going to change.
• What she means by sexual self-esteem: how you feel about your sexual self.
• Sexual trauma as an emotional energy that enters into every sexual encounter.
• The first step: giving yourself permission to go there without expectation.
• The twelve different types of intimacy that go beyond sexual encounters.
• Why it is important to frame the conversation about sex by talking about yourself.
• The myth of men needing loads of sex, and how they need quality sex instead.
• How, in most couples, the issue with the relationship is not sex, but the connection.
• Why it is necessary to feel emotional safety and non-judgment to have a good sex life.
• How doing the things that you are passionate about as an individual serves your relationship.

Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:

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How to Get Emotional and Physical Intimacy Without Sacrificing Your Needs

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