It doesn't matter where you're at in life, we all do this from time to time. We can try to wallpaper our internal issues with external solutions commonly known as vices. For some people it looks like drinking, working, money, school, and even other people. 

The world we create around ourselves is the perpetuation of our internal world. If your life is full of chaos, it's most likely coming from the inside. 

You can't give away what you don't have. Hurt people, hurt people. A lot of times it's not personal, it's the fact that their pain was running over and you were the closest target. 

You can never fix what you don't address. So how do you know if you're using vices? Are there negatives cycles in your life? What triggers you? What makes you the most upset? What worries you the most? Start there. 

Often times we think that the vice is the issue and we villianize ourselves and our issues. The truth is, it's your psyche trying to go over your head because there's a genuine need that's not getting met. If you can meet that need, ie, get to the root cause, the vice will either take care of itself or be a lot easier to deal with. 

Bad news is that your life is your fault. If it's not going great, it's your responsibility. If you're waiting for someone to come along and take care of you it's called a toxic, codependent relationship and you don't want that. Changing your life is completely, 100% in your control. 

This is why I do this podcast. I want to give people tools to lead a fulfilled like. A life of wholeness. Notice, I didn't say happy. I think this is why sometimes my advice can come across as tough love. If my goal was to get you happy, I'd only tell you what you want to hear and say that you don't need to change a thing. But it takes work and intentionality to get whole but happiness is a byproduct of being whole. I can't say that it's the other way around. 

Hope you enjoy this episode