"If you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all." Many of us grew up hearing this phrase, usually with the purpose of teaching us not to insult others or gossip behind their backs. However, sometimes choosing not to say anything, not to use our words and communicate, can actually be more hurtful than sharing what's on our hearts. My silence can end up causing anxiety and frustration in my relationships. So how do I recognize the kind of impact my refusal to engage is having on the people I'm connected to? And how do I break the habit of playing the quiet game in my relationships?