This episode reframes flirtation as a sophisticated form of structural communication fluency rather than a mere romantic or manipulative tactic. It argues that effective social interaction relies on layered signaling, where a boring or neutral "surface layer" provides plausible deniability while a "structural layer" of timing and subtext tests for mutual alignment. By using ambiguity and risk distribution, individuals can probe for compatibility and intelligence without the danger of overt rejection. Ultimately, the text suggests that these skills function as a real-time social IQ test, allowing people to navigate complex environments and negotiate boundaries through a foundation of manners and safety.