Nancy writes to Topher seeking guidance on a relationship issue where her values are clashing with her partner's. She values compassion and empathy, principles she believes in deeply. However, her partner has expressed dismissive attitudes towards these tenets, especially during discussions on social justice topics, showing a lack of empathy and understanding. This has caused Nancy to feel conflicted between her love for her partner and her commitment to her values, leading her to question the alignment of their values. She asks Topher for advice on how to navigate this dilemma while maintaining her principles.