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What if some of the decisions you regret weren't just about poor judgment...but about what SHAME convinced you to believe you deserved? 👀

Staying in unhealthy relationships. Accepting disrespect. Hiding your body. Avoiding opportunities. Saying YES when you desperately want to say NO.

Ma'am...has SHAME been running your life without your permission? And who hired her?! 😂🤣

In this episode of Becoming HER: Healing, Boundaries & Self-Worth, we're getting honest about how shame influences the choices we make, especially after divorce, painful breakups, childhood rejection, body criticism, and toxic relationships.

By the end of this conversation, you'll have a clearer understanding of:

• How to recognize shame when it's influencing your relationships, boundaries, confidence, and everyday decisions.

• What shame may be costing you emotionally and personally when it convinces you to settle, stay silent, or play small.

• The first step toward breaking the pattern: Separating what happened to you—or mistakes you've made—from what you believe about your worth.

Because there's a BIG difference between saying "I made a mistake" and believing "I AM the mistake."

And here's what I'm learning on my own healing journey:

You cannot rebuild your self-worth while continuing to make decisions based on the belief that you're not worthy.

We're not pretending healing happens overnight. We're learning to recognize the patterns, question the lies we've believed, and make ONE different choice at a time.

Your past may explain some of your decisions, but it doesn't have to keep making them for you! 💗

Are you struggling with shame, people-pleasing, enforcing boundaries, or rebuilding your confidence after difficult life experiences?

Email me at [email protected] to share your story, ask questions, or connect about taking your first steps toward rebuilding your self-worth.

And ladies, LIKE, COMMENT, SUBSCRIBE & SHARE this episode with another woman who's ready to stop allowing shame to determine what she deserves.

Remember: You are NOT your worst mistake, your biggest rejection, or somebody else's opinion of your worth.

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Becoming HER Podcast | Healing • Boundaries • Self-Worth

Real Talk. Real Healing. Real HER. 💗

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When did keeping everybody else happy become more important than keeping YOURSELF whole? 👀💗

You're always available.

Always understanding.

Always making sacrifices.

Saying YES when you really mean NO. Ignoring your feelings to avoid conflict. And somehow, everybody's needs are being met...except YOURS!

Ma'am...you're running a 24-hour emotional customer service department, and NOBODY is paying the bill! 😂🤣

In this episode of Becoming HER: Healing, Boundaries & Self-Worth, we're having an honest conversation about the REAL cost of abandoning yourself to maintain relationships, avoid rejection, and keep everybody else comfortable.

Because self-abandonment doesn't always look like weakness. Sometimes it looks like being the dependable woman everybody praises while you're quietly losing yourself.

And here's what I'm learning on my own healing journey:

You cannot rebuild your self-worth while continuously making decisions that tell YOU your needs don't matter.

We're discussing how self-abandonment affects your emotional, mental, physical, and spiritual well-being—and the FIRST step toward stopping it: Getting HONEST with yourself about what you're tolerating and WHY.

Whether you're recovering from divorce, navigating a painful breakup, establishing boundaries with toxic family members, or simply exhausted from being everybody's EVERYTHING, this conversation is for YOU.

💗 Remember: Choosing yourself doesn't mean you stop loving other people. It means you stop leaving yourself out of that love!

Are you struggling with people-pleasing, enforcing boundaries, or rebuilding your self-worth after years of putting yourself last?

Email me at [email protected] to share your story, ask questions, or connect about taking your first steps toward choosing yourself again.

And ladies, LIKE, COMMENT, SUBSCRIBE & SHARE this episode with another woman who needs this reminder!

FluffynFabulous Movement | Knowing you're an asset, when the world treats you as a liability.

Becoming HER Podcast | Healing • Boundaries • Self-Worth

Real Talk. Real Healing. Real HER. 💗

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Listen, y'all...I thought once I made the decision to walk away from people, situations, and relationships that weren't healthy for me, PEACE would just show up at my front door with a welcome basket! 😂💗Ma'am...apparently healing did NOT receive that memo! 🤣One thing this healing journey is teaching me is that I have a whole lot more patience for OTHER people than I sometimes have for MYSELF.Can somebody explain why healing doesn't come with a completion date?! 😂In this episode of Becoming HER: Healing, Boundaries & Self-Worth, I'm having a revealing, compassionate, and sometimes uncomfortable conversation about what healing is teaching me about PATIENCE.Especially when you're a woman over 35 who's navigating divorce, recovering from a painful breakup, grieving the end of a longtime friendship, or making the difficult decision to distance yourself from toxic family members.Because sometimes we're not just grieving the person.

We're grieving the marriage we thought we'd have, the future we imagined, the years we invested, the family relationships we desperately wanted, and the version of ourselves we were before everything changed.That's a LOT to unpack!We're talking about:- 💗 Why healing doesn't always happen on OUR preferred timeline.- 💔 Why missing someone doesn't mean you made the wrong decision by leaving.- 🚪 Why loneliness isn't a good enough reason to reopen doors that needed to close.- 👋🏾 Why loving or forgiving someone doesn't automatically mean giving them access to your life again.- 🌸 Why setting boundaries with family and longtime friends can feel especially painful.- 💪🏾 How to recognize progress even when you don't feel completely healed.- ✨ Why patience with yourself is part of rebuilding your self-worth.And here's something I'm learning:I can miss what I WANTED a relationship to become without returning to what that relationship ACTUALLY was.WHEW! Somebody needed that one. And sometimes that somebody is ME! 😂I'm learning that healing isn't about pretending I don't hurt anymore. It's about giving myself permission to feel, reflect, grow, establish healthier boundaries, and stop punishing myself for not having everything figured out.Some days I feel strong. Some days I'm emotional. Some days I'm grateful for the distance. And sometimes all THREE happen before lunchtime! 🤣But I'm discovering something important:Just because I'm still healing doesn't mean I'm not making progress. And neither are YOU.So if you're rebuilding your life after divorce, learning to love yourself after a breakup, or grieving relationships with family members and friends you finally had to release, pull up a chair.We're going to talk about it.Because Becoming HER isn't about rushing to become a perfectly healed woman. It's about learning to love, respect, and give grace to the woman you're becoming along the way.

💌 LET'S CONNECT! | I want to hear from YOU!What has healing taught you about patience? Are you navigating a breakup, divorce, friendship loss, or the difficult process of establishing boundaries with family?Share your story, suggest a future podcast topic, or reach out about being a guest on the show.Email me at [email protected]💗 If this episode resonates with you, LIKE, COMMENT, SUBSCRIBE & SHARE it with another woman who needs encouragement on her healing journey.And remember, ladies...You don't have to hate someone to leave them. You don't have to stop missing them to maintain your boundaries. And you don't have to rush your healing to prove you're moving forward. Give yourself some GRACE!

We're trying to become healthier, happier women who know their worth! 😂💅🏾Becoming HER Podcast | Healing • Boundaries • Self-Worth

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Whew, chile…some lies don’t come from strangers. Sometimes they’re coming from INSIDE THE HOUSE. 😂

For years, I believed things about myself that I treated like facts. I’m not good enough. I’m too much. Maybe I should just be grateful for what I can get. Maybe I have to prove my worth.

And the scary part? When you repeat a lie long enough, you can start building your entire life around it.

In this episode of the FluffynFabulous Movement Podcast, I’m getting personal about the beliefs I carried for years, where some of them came from, and how those beliefs affected my relationships, boundaries, decisions, self-image and the way I allowed other people to treat me.

Because sometimes the problem isn’t that you don’t know you need a boundary. The problem is that enforcing that boundary contradicts something you’ve believed about yourself for years.

And listen…we are NOT dragging our younger selves today. She was working with the information, experiences and survival tools she had at the time. But something that helped you survive years ago doesn’t automatically deserve a permanent position in your life today.

At some point, we have to ask ourselves:

Who told me that? Is it actually true? And what has believing it cost me?

Because rebuilding self-worth isn't just standing in the mirror yelling, “I'm AMAZING!” while continuing to make decisions that say otherwise. 😂

Your standards, boundaries, relationships, rest, choices and the way you speak to yourself eventually have to reflect what you now believe you deserve.

So grab your coffee, tea—or whatever gets you through these conversations—and come sit with me. ☕😂

We’re identifying some old lies, giving them their termination papers, and making room for the woman we're becoming.

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Knowing you’re an asset, when the world treats you as a liability.

🎙️ Becoming HER: Healing • Boundaries • Self-Worth

💌 Want to share your story, suggest a topic, collaborate, or simply tell me what this episode brought up for you?

Email me at [email protected].

And before you leave, like, subscribe, follow, comment and share this episode with another woman who may need it.

Then ask yourself one question:

What is ONE lie about yourself that you are officially retiring?

Because honey…some of these lies have been employed entirely too long.

HR has been notified. Their services are no longer required. 😂🤣 BYE!

Okay, before somebody gets excited about that title...😂

We are NOT talking about taking those kinds of clothes off! In this episode of Becoming HER: Healing, Boundaries & Self-Worth, I'm sitting down with author Patrice A. for a transparent conversation about what it really means to “undress” yourself emotionally, mentally—peeling back the layers, dropping the masks, confronting what you've carried and getting honest about the woman underneath it all.Because after 35, some of us have accumulated some LAYERS. 👀

The “I'm fine” layer.

The “I don't need anybody” layer.

The “I'll deal with it later” layer.

And my personal favorite: “It doesn't bother me anymore.”

Ma'am...it bothered you Tuesday. 😂

We're talking about life experiences, healing, vulnerability, boundaries, self-worth and what happens when you finally become willing to look at yourself without all the emotional Spanx holding everything together. 🤣

Becoming HER isn't about pretending the past never happened. It's about deciding the past doesn't get to keep defining the woman you're becoming.

So come laugh with us, get uncomfortable with us, and maybe recognize a few layers of your own that you're finally ready to take off.💗

If this conversation speaks to you, Like, Comment & Share it with another woman who's learning to choose herself.

📚 Books by Author Patrice Austin

1. Undress Me

2. God's Heart for a 304: 30 Days Journal for the Adult Entertainer3. Inside My Heart, Inside My Mind (Book of Poetry)

4. The Delusional Spouse: A Threefold Cord is Not Quickly Broken

🛒 Find Patrice Austin's books on Amazon: [https://www.amazon.com/stores/author/B0CQZ4FZ13/allbooks]💌 Want to connect with me, share your own Becoming HER story, or discuss being a guest on the podcast?

Email me at [[email protected]]

FluffynFabulous Movement | Knowing you're an asset, when the world treats you as a liability.

Becoming HER — Healing, Boundaries & Self-Worth

Real Talk. Real Healing. Real HER.

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Links for Patrice’s books 

.1. Undress Me by Patrice Austin 

2. Inside My Heart, Inside My Mind by Patrice Austin 

3. The Delusional Spouse by Patrice Austin 

Listen...comparison will have you stressed out over somebody else's life while you're supposed to be living YOURS. 😂

She's further ahead. She's thinner. She's married. She's single and traveling. She makes more money. Her house is bigger. Her business is growing faster. Her edges are flourishing...

Meanwhile, you're looking at yourself like, “Ma'am, what exactly are WE doing over here?” 😂

In this episode of Becoming HER: Healing, Boundaries & Self-Worth, we're talking about why constantly measuring yourself against other women can quietly destroy your confidence and make you overlook everything that's uniquely valuable about YOU.

Here's the problem: you're comparing your journey to somebody else's timeline, circumstances, opportunities, struggles—and sometimes their carefully edited highlight reel.

That's not even a fair competition!

There is only ONE you. Your experiences are different. Your timing is different. Your healing is different. And the woman you're becoming doesn't need to look like anybody else.

Part of rebuilding your self-worth is learning to appreciate another woman's success without using it as evidence that you're failing.

Her winning doesn't mean you're losing.

Her beauty doesn't diminish yours.

Her chapter 12 doesn't mean your chapter 4 is behind.

And somebody else's definition of success doesn't automatically need to become yours.

So cheer for her. Learn from her. Be inspired by her.

Then get your eyes back on YOUR assignment. 💗

Because Becoming HER isn't about becoming HER over there. It's about finally becoming YOU.

💌 Want to share your own Becoming HER journey, connect with me, or discuss being a guest on the podcast? Email me at [email protected]

And if this episode sounds like somebody you know who's been comparing herself into exhaustion, 😂 Like, Comment & Share it with her.

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Knowing you're an asset, when the world treats you as a liability.

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We love talking about boundaries with other people. Don't call me after 10. Don't disrespect me. Don't disturb my peace. Don't bring that foolishness over here. 😂

But what happens when YOU keep violating your own boundaries?

In this episode of Becoming HER: Healing, Boundaries & Self-Worth, we're talking about the boundaries we sometimes need to set with ourselves—breaking promises to ourselves, saying yes when we mean NO, reopening doors we worked hard to close, ignoring our needs, and volunteering for situations that drain us.

Because sometimes the conversation isn't:

“Why do they keep doing this to me?”

It's:

“Why do I keep allowing myself to participate in this?” 👀😂

Whew. I know. Mind your business, right? 😂

Becoming HER means learning to trust yourself, honor your own standards, protect your time and stop negotiating against the woman you're trying to become.

You can't demand that everybody else respect boundaries you won't respect yourself.

💗 If this episode speaks to you, Like, Comment & Share and tell me: What's ONE boundary you need to set with yourself?

💌 Want to share your Becoming HER story, connect with me, or discuss being a podcast guest? Email me at [email protected]

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Knowing you're an asset, when the world treats you as a liability.

Becoming HER — Healing, Boundaries & Self-Worth

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Sometimes self-neglect doesn't look like giving up on yourself.

Sometimes it looks like taking care of everybody except yourself.

Being the dependable one. Saying “I'm fine” when you're exhausted. Ignoring what your body and emotions are telling you. Putting off your goals. Saying yes when you desperately want to say no. And convincing yourself that you'll finally take care of YOU…later.

In this episode of Becoming HER: Healing, Boundaries & Self-Worth, I'm getting honest about the everyday ways self-neglect can quietly become normal—and what I'm learning about changing it.

We're talking about recognizing unhealthy patterns, establishing boundaries, paying attention to resentment, making yourself a priority without drowning in guilt, and keeping small promises to yourself.

Because here's something I'm learning on my own journey:

You cannot keep abandoning yourself and call it strength.

Taking care of yourself doesn't mean you stop loving, supporting or showing up for other people. It means you finally put yourself back on the list.

And sometimes Becoming HER starts with one simple decision:

“I will no longer disappear from my own life.”

💗 If this conversation hits home, Like, Comment & Share it with another woman who may need this reminder.

💌 Want to share your story, connect with me, or discuss becoming a guest on the podcast? Email me at [email protected]

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Healing doesn't always begin with a dramatic breakthrough. Sometimes it starts with quiet moments of honesty—when you realize you've been carrying pain, people-pleasing, fear, or self-doubt for far too long.

In this episode of Becoming HER: Healing, Boundaries & Self-Worth, I'm sharing some of the personal moments that made me stop surviving and start healing. This isn't about having all the answers—it's about embracing the journey, setting healthier boundaries, rebuilding self-worth, and becoming the woman God created me to be.

If you've ever questioned your value, struggled to say "no," or felt like you've lost pieces of yourself while trying to be everything for everyone else, I hope this conversation reminds you that healing is possible—and your story isn't over.

💖 Remember: You're an asset, even when the world has treated you like a liability.

✨ If this episode encouraged you, please Like, Comment & Share to help someone else on their healing journey.

💌 I'd love to hear your story or connect with you personally.
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Thank you for being part of the FluffynFabulous Movement. Let's continue becoming HER—one healing step at a time.

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Living in a body the world constantly feels entitled to judge can do something to you.

Too big. Too small. Too dark. Too old. Not attractive enough. Not feminine enough. Not whatever somebody else decided you were supposed to be.

And after hearing those messages long enough, sometimes we start doing the judging for them.

In this episode of Becoming HER: Healing, Boundaries & Self-Worth, I'm talking honestly about learning to heal while living in a body that hasn't always been treated kindly by the world—and recognizing the difference between wanting to improve yourself and believing you have to hate yourself until you do.

I'm still on this journey. I don't have everything figured out, and that's the point.

We're learning how to care for ourselves now, establish boundaries around how others treat us, challenge the ugly things we've learned to believe about ourselves, and stop postponing our worth until we become some future version of ourselves.

You don't have to wait until you lose the weight, change your appearance, find the relationship, get the promotion, or receive somebody else's approval to decide:

I am worthy right now.

That's what Becoming HER is about.

💗 Like, Comment & Share if this conversation speaks to you—or send it to another woman who needs the reminder.

💌 Want to share your story, discuss being a podcast guest, or simply connect?
Email me at [email protected]

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