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Focus on the Target šÆ. (Today I Learned #173)
Today I learned that I have to focus on the target. With me adding more value to myself Iāve been attracting more and more female attention. At first I was overjoyed that a couple girls were starting to give me the time of day. But after awhile I realized that this additional female attention was detrimental to my overall goal of finding the type of girl that I want. I realized through several stillborn relationships that building a meaningful enriching romantic relationship with any girl isnāt going to be easy. It takes patience and grit to break down the walls females put up to protect themselves from the guys who just want sex. I had a hard time understanding this. My prior understanding was that if a girl rejects you she has no interest in you. Though Iāve come to understand that that is partly true. In my experience sometimes a girl will reject you to measure your desire for them. Upon facing rejection I would just move on to the next potential relationship canidate. But that was an error in some circumstances. What I should of done was be more patient and more clever. Utilizing definite propose would of seperated me from the pack. But to do that would actually require that I find something unique in this girl. To do that would require me to put this one girl above all other girls whom have peaked my interest. Until recently I hadnāt really decide what criteria that this one girl would have to have. But finally I just wrote on a piece what are the specific nonphysical qualities a girl would have to possess that would then prompt me to solely focus on courting her. Now that Iāve done that it makes it easier to disregard all the extra female attention Iāve been getting in order to serious move forward with courting my next girlfriend. So in conclusion I learned today that I have to focus on the target. I have to disregard the distractions. When experiencing failed attempts I have to stick with it and figure it out not run off to a new challenge hoping it will be easier. Building any type meaningful of relationship has inherent difficulties. Letting myself get distract and start and stop is just keeping me from achieving my goal.
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Today I learned that I have to focus on the target. With me adding more value to myself Iāve been attracting more and more female attention. At first I was overjoyed that a couple girls were starting to give me the time of day. But after awhile I realized that this additional female attention was detrimental to my overall goal of finding the type of girl that I want. I realized through several stillborn relationships that building a meaningful enriching romantic relationship with any girl isnāt going to be easy. It takes patience and grit to break down the walls females put up to protect themselves from the guys who just want sex. I had a hard time understanding this. My prior understanding was that if a girl rejects you she has no interest in you. Though Iāve come to understand that that is partly true. In my experience sometimes a girl will reject you to measure your desire for them. Upon facing rejection I would just move on to the next potential relationship canidate. But that was an error in some circumstances. What I should of done was be more patient and more clever. Utilizing definite propose would of seperated me from the pack. But to do that would actually require that I find something unique in this girl. To do that would require me to put this one girl above all other girls whom have peaked my interest. Until recently I hadnāt really decide what criteria that this one girl would have to have. But finally I just wrote on a piece what are the specific nonphysical qualities a girl would have to possess that would then prompt me to solely focus on courting her. Now that Iāve done that it makes it easier to disregard all the extra female attention Iāve been getting in order to serious move forward with courting my next girlfriend. So in conclusion I learned today that I have to focus on the target. I have to disregard the distractions. When experiencing failed attempts I have to stick with it and figure it out not run off to a new challenge hoping it will be easier. Building any type meaningful of relationship has inherent difficulties. Letting myself get distract and start and stop is just keeping me from achieving my goal.