Dear Sam,

I have been seeing a guy for a total of 10 plus years we lost touch and decided to give it a try again so here are my issues , if he stays at my home for a few nights a week , he won’t take a shower but instead wash up in the sink because he says you get the same results. I have a home church and I am very active in the church he doesn’t belong to one , he complains when I have to go to church or volunteer , so I invite him to come along he always has an excuse , he has taken me to his house for a few times , but each time we go he seems to take a different route so I won’t remember how to get there , I have asked him to send me the address so I can stop by while I am out , well first of all he won’t send it , and next he will say he won’t be home and lastly he will say since I have obligations (child) at home I don’t need to know his address because he always has to come to me anyway if we are going to spend time together, he is a diabetic so our sex life isn’t all of that because the medication he is on causes him to have {erd}, next since his younger years he use to date older women so he has gone to a lot of places that I haven’t gone to , so when I ask him to go with me he will say he don’t have an interest because he do it already. I am sure it’s more things to list , I tell him that we aren’t equally yolked because it’s not like I need him financially or anything, I love him but after all of the above items ,I don’t think I am in love with him and it’s about wasting time , since life is so short and we don’t get to pick how long we are going to live .Any advice on this dilemma.