Why Young Men Should Think Twice About Marriage in Modern America

Hey, it’s Earnest Mann. In this unapologetically real episode, I'm responding to a letter from Aaron in Oregon—a 25-year-old IT guy with a good-paying job and dreams of marrying his high school sweetheart. What starts off sounding like a heartfelt life update quickly turns into a cautionary tale. I'm not here to mock Aaron, but to tell the harsh truth about marriage, modern masculinity, and legal traps that young men keep walking into.

The Fantasy vs. The Reality of Marriage

Aaron's story isn't rare—it’s just another example of youthful idealism crashing into cold, hard facts. The idea of marriage, especially to someone described as a “baby-making machine,” is often less about love and more about outdated romantic myths and biological imperatives. Once the pleasure wears off (usually within a year), most men realize they’ve signed up for a legal and financial prison.

How the Legal System Is Stacked Against Men

Let’s talk real: marriage is just a state-sanctioned legal contract, and every aspect of that contract is written to protect the woman and punish the man, especially in divorce. If you end up with kids and the marriage goes south (which it likely will), you’re staring down 18 years of child support, potential alimony, and a ruined life. I break this down in plain language so no one can say they weren’t warned.

My Final Message to Aaron—and to You

Aaron, don’t let 17th-century fairytales or moralistic guilt trips guide your decisions. Don’t “man up” just because someone tells you to. Marriage is a scam, and the system is rigged. If you ignore this and still walk down that aisle, then when it all falls apart—I told you so.

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