May 03, 2018

Forget Work-Life Balance, It’s About Integration [Ep 37]

19 minutes

This week on The Flip King CEO, Joe Evangelisti and his good friend Ray Gonzalez talk about that tricky, difficult-to-pin-down-word: balance. You’ve probably heard people use the terms work-life balance or even work-health balance a billion times, but Joe and Ray throw the word balance out the window, and as Ray says, it’s about integration. You have to be in the moment, fully engaged with whatever it is you’re doing, whether you’re doing something at work or spending time with your family. It’s a different approach to this age-old question and Joe and Ray break it all down on this episode.

Multitasking is a myth

As Joe says on this week’s Flip King CEO podcast, a lot of people don’t know what being present or being in the moment really means. As he says, multitasking the idea of doing multiple things at one time, is actually a myth. If you want to get things done, you have to be focused one one thing, do that thing, and then switch gears to take on the next task. That goes for a meeting at work or playing with your kids. You can’t do a good job of either if you’re trying to do both at the same time. Being present isn’t something you turn on and off, it’s a process.

Block time for your family

It can be so easy to let your work life bleed into your home life, and that’s why Ray recommends blocking time for your family so that you get both the quantity and quality of time with them that you all need. He says he schedules date nights with his wife and playtimes with his daughter to make sure he’s spending time with them and is 100% focused on them, not on whatever is going on at work. And this is what he means by integration: That quality family time is integrated into his schedule.

You do the work of integration

While Joe admits to not being a relationship coach, both he and Ray say it’s imperative for you to do the work of integrating your life. Don’t make your wife or husband plan date night, don’t make your kids beg you to take them somewhere or play with them. You do it. You take that stress off of them, and then use that time to really connect in a deeper way with them.

Apply these lessons to your food intake

On this week’s episode of the Flip King CEO, Ray talks about his food and workout regimen, which has allowed him to find peak performance in other aspects of his life. As he says, you have to find what works for you. For him, that’s intermittent fasting and no sugar, no dairy, no grains. But again, it’s about being intentional about your decisions, and making sure that what you’re doing is consistent. Like everything they talk about on this episode, it’s about applying the lessons in a way that fits your life, and making sure they’re all integrated into everything you do.

Outline of This Episode