No matter the situation and how unfair it may be, the only part of things you can control is yourself. There are always ways we can hold ourselves accountable and address the internal trauma that is causing us pain, for us to move forward we must take ownership of our own responsibility and forgive ourselves for the mistakes we might have made. There is a quote I love, "If you think they are to blame, there is work to be done. If you think you are to blame, there is work to be done. If you think nobody is to blame, you are already there." It is not about blame, it is about healing and growth, in order to move forward we must address our own actions, responses and traumas and allow ourselves to move forward. Compassion is not just for others, we also need to extend it to ourselves.