Hello All thank you for your patience in todays episode I dive into the meaning of forgiveness, and how it can change our lives and relationships, stay tuned for part 2

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Hello, friends, and welcome to my first official episode of Beyond Consciousness. I am your host, Raquel. Thank you for being here. I just want to start off by saying I am so sorry for the long wait for this episode. I got sick and I had a sore throat. Absolutely no voice. I was down for, like, three weeks. So I apologize for the inconsistency in my postings, but my voice has recovered and I'm trying to get back on track and give you guys the content that I promised you. So now that I've gotten that out of the way, let's get to today's episode, which, as you can see from the title, it's forgiveness. I will be doing this episode in two parts. One, because I can talk forever, and two, because I didn't want this episode to be too long, and I felt that it would be more beneficial to you all if I gave you the information and the techniques that I used, along with the personal examples separately. I didn't want to overload you and make you sit there forever on end while I talk and talk and talk. So I'll be in two parts, so stay tuned for that. So today I'm going to be talking about how forgiveness impacts our well being and our relationships and basically just why we should do it. So forgiveness for me, is the foundation to healing, and it is often misunderstood. I know a lot of us have heard the saying forgive and forget, which I do not live by that motto. I don't know who came up with that, but I do not forget. I will absolutely forgive. Forgiveness is a must. It's good for you. It's good for everyone. Forgiveness is a must. Forgetting, I think, is a big no no. Just because we would not grow and we would not learn, we would not upgrade and level up in our lives if we didn't learn from our mistakes or if we just didn't let go and learn, okay, this is what I do and don't need to do, and this is what I like and don't like. So don't forget, okay? Don't ever forget. So having said that, it doesn't mean that forgetting is condoning the actions of the other person that hurt us either. That is also a big misunderstanding. It absolutely does not mean that you're okay with whatever's happening to you. It's rather a choice that we make to free ourselves from the burden of anger and resentment and pain. It's really about reclaiming our own peace and being able to move forward. So please don't associate forgiveness with being weak and allowing unwanted behavior. Forgiveness is an action that holds immense power and healing potential. I don't know if a lot of people know that, but it's why it's so important. Because if we allow ourselves to hold on to grudges and resentments and fear and anger or anything else, it can and will weigh us down. Hindering our personal growth and disrupting our emotional well being. It keeps us trapped in the past and prevents us from fully embracing the present moment. We can't live in the now when we're stuck up on what happened to us before, and when we're stuck on what happened to us before then. That's all we can think about in the present moment. We're too afraid to build relationships, too afraid to take chances. It really holds you back. So you really need to think about how forgiveness can be beneficial to you and how it can affect your relationships, your mental health, your spiritual health, and your physical well being. Those are all intertwined, by the way. I think I just have to stop and say this really quick before I move on. Your physical health, your mental health, your emotional health, and your spiritual health are all intertwined. If one of those is unbalanced, the rest of you can become unbalanced too. Maybe not all of you will, but several of those parts may be affected and it will cause a snowball effect in your life. So please, please take care of yourselves out there. Now, let me be the first to say that the act of forgiveness is not easy. And speaking from personal experiences, sometimes you'll have to do the forgiveness work several times before you feel that release of energy. There are some things that I have to constantly do forgiveness work for and that's okay. Some of these things will just be like that. Some times there's things you have to permanently do forgiveness work for or things you have to do it for a few days at a time, a few weeks at a time, a few months at a time before you feel that release of energy. I think the most important thing is just doing the work and really putting your all into it. That is the most important. Don't worry about how long it's going to take, just do the work. And doing the work really will keep you on the right track. And I will again talk about this more. In part two. There are also different levels of forgiveness and there are, I think, multiple. But there are two main levels of forgiveness. The first is forgiving others, which we're all familiar with. Forgiving others, again, does not mean we forget what happened or that we need to reconcile or keep a relationship with the other person or thing that has been hindering us or harming us in some way. That is completely up to you. Don't let anyone make that decision for you. It is completely, 100% up to you whether or not you want to keep that person or thing in your life. Forgiveness again, yes, everyone, you have to do it now, forgetting there's a no no and keeping that person or thing in your life is up to you. You have to do what is best for you. So just think about that when you're doing your forgiveness work. Think about your ultimate end goal. I guess I should say your goal is to release the energy because you want to feel good and you want to be able to move on and not be held back by your past traumas. But you also want to think about, okay, now that I've done this forgiveness work, am I going to move on? Because that person is still going to be there. That person or thing is still going to be there. Do you have to think about, okay, what am I going to do if this person tries to reenter my life? Am I going to keep them there? Am I willing to continue to do the work? Am I strong enough to stand up for myself? Maybe that's something that you're trying to do? Maybe you necessarily don't want to get rid of that person, but you want to try to reconcile the relationship and form a new bond. You kind of want to start thinking about those things before you do the forgiveness work. That's something that I kind of made a mistake on at one point because I was doing this all on my own. But that's something that I want to let you all know. That's something that you should definitely be thinking about as well. So the second dimension of forgiveness is forgiving ourselves. Now, I know there are some people listening right now who are probably thinking, forgive myself for what? I'm not the one causing the trauma. Now that may be true, but trust me, as much as you need to forgive others, there are things that we will have to forgive ourselves for as well. It could be as little as like I mentioned previously, allowing someone back into your life and allowing them to repeatedly cause trauma. Forgive yourself for allowing it to happen. It could be talking down to yourself or not speaking love and life into yourself or over your life. You need to forgive yourself for being so mean and so nasty to yourself. It's okay. But that's what I mean when I say forgive ourselves. We all make mistakes. We all carry guilt and shame sometimes we carry it for years. And we're unable to forgive ourselves for the harm that we've done to ourselves. The concept of self forgiveness, it was so hard for me to grasp, and I think it was even harder for me to do than forgiving others at one point. But I got through it. But remember, we are human and making mistakes is a part of our journey to grow and learn. We must practice self compassion and forgive ourselves. By forgiving ourselves, we create this space for healing and transformation. It allows us to move forward with renewed purpose and clarity. It really is just one of the most wonderful gifts we can give ourselves. Just to feel renewed and start afresh. And it's just a beautiful thing, you guys. So having said that I promised I wasn't going to ramble. That's all I have for today's show. I want to say thank you for taking the time to listen, taking the time out of your day for yourself and taking your first steps towards healing again. I will be following up with part two shortly, so stay alert for that. It should be out within the next few days, so I hope you all stay tuned and listen to that. And if you like what you've heard or you know someone who might, please share and subscribe to this podcast. You can go to beyondconsciousness.net Thank you for listening and as always, happy healing.