For the video of this episode, go to https://brucechalmer.com/four-things-your-therapist-wants-you-to-know/.

What should you know before you start therapy? Christina Caron wrote an article about that in the New York Times (link below), and Judy and I talk about the four things Caron wrote about, and apply them specifically to couples therapy. As we discuss, therapy is often fluid, especially with couples. Goals can shift, the two members of the couple can differ in their opinions about how the therapy is going, and success isn’t always easy to define. As I’ve written about in one of my books (It’s Not About Communication), couples therapy is often like improv theater.

The article we refer to in this episode is at https://www.nytimes.com/2025/01/24/well/start-therapy-tips.html.

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