EPISODE SUMMARY:

Explore the messy, miraculous intersection of sobriety, inner healing, and self-forgiveness. 

This is for you if you’ve ever...

• Used coping mechanisms (weed, alcohol, scrolling, busyness) that left you emptier than before
• Felt your past trauma creeping into your parenting
• Wondered why healing isn’t linear (or fast)
• Needed permission to not have it all figured out

Through raw stories and hard-won wisdom, guest Nicole and host, Ashley reveal:

• How alcohol and other numbing behaviors often mask deeper wounds (generational trauma, unmet needs, identity struggles)
• Why "rock bottom" is optional
• The uncomfortable truth: Sobriety isn’t the finish line—it’s the first step toward reclaiming your voice, faith, and family legacy
• Addiction isn’t the root problem—it’s the symptom of what you haven’t processed
• Breaking cycles requires awareness + action 
• Community isn’t just helpful—it’s necessary for lasting freedom

KEY MOMENTS:

[10:15] The Lies We Inherit

• "What’s wrong with you?" → breaking generational language patterns
• Nicole’s daughter’s "Get away from me!" moment (and the hug that healed them both)

[22:30] Sobriety as Sacred Rebellion

• Why labels like "alcoholic" can limit your healing
• Your host’s confession: "I chose my kids over the bottle"

[35:40] Parenting While Healing

• How unprocessed trauma shows up in discipline and connection
• The *"3-Second Pause"* for triggers (Nicole’s go-to tool)

[45:00] Faith Meets Therapy

• How EMDR and Internal Family Systems helped rewire deep wounds
• The prayer that shifted everything: "You need to forgive yourself"

[55:20] Your Freedom Toolkit

• Practical step: Say "I need…" out loud (even to your mirror)
• Join the Her Identity Project Sisterhood to keep growing

 

5 KEY TAKEAWAYS:

1. Healing begins when you stop numbing
   • Try this: Name one emotion you’ve been avoiding this week.
2. Your kids are your mirrors—not your judges
   • When triggered, ask: "What did little-me need in this moment?"
3. Sobriety reveals what you’ve been escaping
   • Journal prompt: "What pain was my [drinking/overworking/etc.] protecting me from?"
4. Community is your lifeline
   • Text a friend today: "I’m struggling with ___. Can we talk?"
5. Freedom is a daily practice with Identity rooted in Christ
   • Declare this week: "I’m not who I was. I’m becoming who He says I am."

RESOURCES MENTIONED:

• [Book] Quit Like a Woman by Holly Whitaker
• [App] Reframe (sobriety support)

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