In this episode of Table Pancakes, Katherine and Shelbi create space for an honest conversation about friendship breakups, the difficulty of letting go of long-standing friendships, and how to navigate the emotional complexity of it all.

• Platonic relationships can be just as intense and emotionally complex as romantic ones
• Two things can be true: friendship breakups can be devastating, but they can also be freeing when a relationship no longer serves you
• Sometimes friendships end with an unspoken silent line drawn in the sand, especially when personal capacity shifts and support feels one-sided
• The debate between “the chop” (directly cutting someone out of your life) versus recognizing when a friendship has naturally ended

• Balancing care for someone and shared history with maintaining self-respect and boundaries
• Friendships are some of the longest-standing relationships we have, but knowing when change is necessary is key
• Not everyone deserves unconditional grace and consideration, and recognizing this can be an act of self-preservation

• How do you determine the next step when a friendship feels off but remains unresolved?
• Standstills can be deeply quiet, with a lack of communication, differing narratives, or unspoken resentment
• Some people may avoid accountability when they hold more power to societal norms, making it easier for them to disengage rather than repair
• Navigating the balance between addressing an issue and letting it go, especially when it allows people continued access to your life via social media without genuine engagement

Have you ever gone through a friendship breakup or a standstill? What tools and language did you have (or lack) to navigate it, and how did it impact you and your friend?

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