In this conversation, Stacie Spiler discusses the profound effects of trauma and borderline personality disorder (BPD) on the brain and behavior. She shares her personal journey from experiencing abuse to healing, outlining five concrete steps she took to recover. Stacie emphasizes the importance of understanding the impact of personality disorders, the role of relationships in healing, and the necessity of taking radical responsibility for one's actions. She also highlights the significance of intentional solitude for integration and finding wholeness after trauma.

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takeaways

• Trauma reshapes how individuals react and attach to others.
• Survival responses can lead to destructive behaviors.
• Healing is a long process that requires responsibility.
• Understanding the brain's response to trauma is crucial for healing.
• Relationships can be both a wound and a source of healing.
• Medication can provide temporary support but is not a solution.
• Intentional solitude is necessary for true integration.
• Healing allows individuals to reclaim their lives and identities.
• Patterns of behavior can be unlearned with time and effort.
• The journey of healing is about living intentionally and responsibly.

Chapters

00:00 Understanding Trauma and Its Lasting Effects

09:55 The Impact of Personality Disorders on the Brain

20:05 Steps to Healing from BPD and CPDSD

27:20 The Role of Relationships in Healing