Episode 1: From Bitter to Better — And Why I'm Here

Welcome to the very first episode of Build What Matters—and thank you for being here from the beginning. That means something.

This episode is the origin story. I share how I lost my marriage and my ministry, how I spent years blaming someone else's struggle with substance use disorder rather than looking honestly at myself, and how I eventually found my way into recovery work, the very community I once scorned, and fell in absolute love with it. I became the director of a 21-county recovery center in northern Michigan. I went, literally, from bitter to better.

This episode also introduces the framework that drives everything I write and talk about: Lead Aligned. Live Parallel. Build What Matters. and what each of those means to me, and why they came out of the journey, not a classroom.

A note on the recording:

This is my first ever podcast episode, and I want to be honest with you about what you're hearing. Substack allows you to record audio and video directly in the platform, but it doesn't have an editing feature. So, what you're getting here is the real, unpolished second take. No cuts. No cleanup. Just me, the story, and whatever the microphone picked up.

I'll likely continue using Substack's recording tools for now until I find something with editing capability. But honestly, for a podcast built around truth-telling over performance, maybe a raw recording is the right place to start.

In this episode:

Why this podcast exists and where it comes from

The confession - bitterness, loss, and what I blamed it on

The turn - how my theology, my understanding of SUD, and my life started to shift

The recovery community that welcomed me back when I didn't deserve it

The framework: Lead Aligned · Live Parallel · Build What Matters

Who this podcast is for and what you can expect going forward

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Lead Aligned. Live Parallel. Build What Matters.

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