Ever wonder how you can keep your neurodiverse child regulated and happy amid the overstimulation, social pressures, and chaos of the holiday season? In this episode of The Parenting Cipher, Genie Dawkins shares her personal journey of navigating holiday triggers, family microaggressions, and anxiety—while empowering parents with practical tools to help their neurodiverse kids find calm during potentially stressful family gatherings.

Episode Summary:

When Genie Dawkins’ children were first diagnosed with ADHD and anxiety, the holidays became a source of stress with sensory overload, unpredictable changes, and tense family dynamics. She breaks down what holiday triggers look like, how dysregulation manifests, and the ways families can unintentionally escalate anxiety—then introduces the Calm Calendar concept, parent modeling, and her signature “Three Cs” holiday survival framework. Genie gets real about the emotional toll of microaggressions from family, shares the power of creating safe spaces, and gives actionable advice for celebrating progress—big and small—in any family setting.

Key Takeaways:

• What holiday triggers and dysregulation look like for neurodiverse children
• Why “just calm down” doesn’t work—kids need routines, visual aids, and modeling of calm behavior
• The importance of parent self-regulation and how your anxiety impacts your child
• How to build predictability: using the Calm Calendar, prepping for transitions, and previewing events
• Understanding microaggressions and the emotional labor of defending your child’s diagnosis and needs
• Three Cs Framework for a peaceful holiday: Create Space, Communicate Clearly, Celebrate Progress
• How to set up sensory-friendly environments, safe spaces in relatives’ homes, and open conversations about expectations
• Why recognizing and celebrating every small win matters for building confidence and resilience

Links and Resources:

• Holiday Survival Checklist (download from Show Notes)
• Child Trends Report on Childhood Anxiety Disorders (for statistics referenced)
• Jodi Aman on Parent Modeling (past episode guest)

Quotes:

• “Just telling them to calm down is kind of like up in the air—they need someone to show them what that looks like.”
• “Parent modeling is defined as children learning behaviors, attitudes, and emotional responses by observing their parents...it’s a powerful learning tool.”
• “So many unconscious conversations with family build up your anxiety—and that builds up your children's anxiety.”
• “The real flex is finding peace without losing your purpose or your mind.”

Speaker Biography: Genie Dawkins is the host of The Parenting Cipher podcast, special education advocate, and a mother of two neurodiverse sons. Genie uses her lived experience—and a dash of hip-hop wisdom—to empower Black and neurodiverse families to decode school systems, build resilience, and protect their peace. Her work highlights mental health, intersectionality, and practical action for parents navigating advocacy, school policy, and everyday family life.

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