From Fawn to Free

Are you constantly recovering from your week instead of actually enjoying your weekend? In this episode of From Fawn to Free, Certified Mindshift Life Coach Rebekkah Monitz pulls back the curtain on why we use perfection as a shield and how the "performance state" creates a powerful illusion of safety.

Rebekkah breaks down the exhausting reality of being the "perfect worker" and the "chameleon friend"—the one who nods, smiles, and tolerates one-sided monologues just to keep the peace. Tune in for a refreshing, unpolished perspective on identifying your "15-minute people," learning why choosing to be kind is infinitely better than being pathologically nice...and finding the courage to let your table clear so safe, mutual relationships can finally take a seat.

Credits Mentioned in This Show Internal Family Systems (IFS): Framework developed by Dr. Richard Schwartz Complex PTSD & The Fawn Response: Learn more by reading resources by Pete Walker "Fawn Hangover": Concept coined by Dr. Ingrid Clayton

For educational and informational purposes only. This content does not substitute for professional medical or mental health advice, diagnosis or treatment.

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Have you ever wondered if the world has met the real you? In this debut episode of From Fawn to Free, Certified Mindshift Life Coach Rebekkah Monitz drops the curtain on "chronic fawning" and the exhausting performance of people-pleasing. Sharing pieces of her own healing journey, Rebekkah dives into the reality of fawn fatigue—or what happens when your "jazz hands" get tired. Tune in for a raw, unpolished, and deeply honest conversation about dropping the need for perfection, stepping out of performance state, and beginning the hard but beautiful work of choosing relational freedom.

📚 Resources & Credits Mentioned in This Episode

• Internal Family Systems (IFS): Developed by Dr. Richard Schwartz. You can explore the framework in his book, No Bad Parts.
• "Fawn Hangover": This term was beautifully coined by Dr. Ingrid Clayton. Learn more about her work in her book, Fawning.
• Complex PTSD (CPTSD): For deep insight into the four trauma responses (Fight, Flight, Freeze, Fawn), read the foundational text by therapist Pete Walker: Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving.

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👋 What happens when your greatest talent is actually a coping mechanism? In this episode, Certified Mindshift Life Coach Rebekkah Monitz pulls back the curtain on her own 25+ year history as a professional music and voice teacher to reveal how deep the "performance state" can go.

Rebekkah shares the pivotal moment she realized she was performing around the clock just to maintain safety, leading her to ask the terrifying but liberating question: Do I even like to perform? Tune in for an honest, vulnerable conversation about "dropping the rope," embracing the messiness of a live nervous system reset, and learning how to separate who you truly are from the roles you were taught to play.

If today's episode resonated with you, please stay in touch! Please visit: rebekkahmonitz.com

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For decades, perfectionism was my superpower—because it was the only thing that made me feel safe. In this episode of From Fawn to Free, Certified Mindshift Life Coach Rebekkah Monitz peels back the layers on why so many of us obsess over crossing every "t" and dotting every "i."

Sharing an honest look at how this showed up in her own music studio, Rebekkah exposes what's actually driving our need for flawless presentation: the uncomfortable, deep-rooted fear of rejection and abandonment. Tune in for a refreshing, unpolished chat (complete with a cameo from her dog, Charlie!) about why it's time to stop flying under the radar, drop the pristine act, and give yourself permission to do life beautifully messy.

If today's episode resonated with you, please stay in touch! Please visit: rebekkahmonitz.com

👉For educational and informational purposes only. This content does not substitute for professional medical or mental health advice, diagnosis or treatment.