Rikki Herbst, LCSW, MSEd joins me in this episode and shares her story regarding her religious journey, sexuality, and more. We have an incredibly thought-provoking conversation about sexuality, identity, and the hidden challenges that many women face in close knit or ultra-orthodox communities. Rikki vulnerably shares her unique journey—from her early struggles to express herself to the complex and transformative experiences that shaped who she is today. In this episode, we explore themes that might challenge our assumptions and expand our understanding of love, empathy, and acceptance.

Rikki opens up about her healing journey, her dissertation topic of exploring the gendered religious experiences of women who leave the orthodox community, and how she discovered her own sexuality and came to terms with it. She sheds light on what it was like to be with a female partner in secret for over a decade while publicly dating men, the burden of carrying secrets, and the liberation she felt when she finally decided to live openly. We also talk about the pressures she faced to “fit in,” the offensive questions she faces, and the freedom she’s discovered in living authentically.

This conversation is an invitation to listen with an open heart and mind. It’s not about agreeing or disagreeing—it’s about understanding and cultivating empathy for the diverse ways we each find our path to happiness and wholeness.

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