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Stress doesn’t always come from what’s happening today. Sometimes it’s the nervous system running an old program, one you learned as a child. We sit down with Lolita Guarin, stress management expert and creator of the Calm Process, to talk about the hidden roots of burnout, overwhelm, and chronic anxiety and what actually helps when “self-care” starts feeling like another task.

Lolita shares her lived experience as an immigrant and an adult child of an alcoholic, including how chronic stress escalated into a health crisis that forced a hard re-evaluation of her pace, boundaries, and self-talk. We dig into why quick fixes like yoga or journaling can become stress bandages when your mind keeps scanning for danger, and how patterns like people pleasing, hypervigilance, and fear of saying no can show up at work, in friendships, and in intimate relationships.

Lolita’s talks about the CALM Process as a practical stress management framework: Control what you can, practice Acceptance, Limit what doesn’t work (and ask where it came from), then Multiply what does work. We also explore a powerful idea beneath it all: real change often means breaking loyalty to an old identity, even when that identity once helped you survive. If you’re looking for trauma-informed stress relief, stronger boundaries, and a clearer path to resilience, this conversation is for you.

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