Annette is a Mexican-American filmmaker, DJ, and the founder of For Me — a non-explicit erotic content platform built for women and FLINTA people. She grew up between Mexico City and the US in an artistic family, studied acting at Boston University's conservatory, and spent over a decade running a jewelry brand with her sister out of New York City. After COVID, she moved to Tepoztlan - a mountain town south of Mexico City, started working in a post-production studio, directed her first short film, and began building For Me.

We get into: what women said they didn't want versus what they couldn't yet articulate that they did, why Bridgerton and erotic fiction outsell most femme-gaze porn platforms, how the whole crew wore lingerie to make shooting scenes feel safer, the deferred life plan, walking the hard path in life and in relationship because sometimes that's just the way it needs to be, the cosmic giggle, your best performance is often when you try to act as badly as you can, and the fear of bad taste as a creative limiter.

"If you had the opportunity to give a high school graduation speech to your high school self, what would the thesis statement of the speech be?" — Annette

Find Annette:

• For Me: https://www.for-me.mx/
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/for_me________________/

Books Mentioned:

• Come As You Are — Emily Nagoski (arousal non-concordance, women's sexuality)

People & Concepts Mentioned:

• Ram Dass — "in order to become nobody you have to be somebody"
• Ezra Klein — referenced a podcast segment about good taste outpacing your output as an artist
• Heated Rivalry — popular erotic fiction book referenced as example of what women actually consume
• Bridgerton — Netflix series as evidence of non-explicit erotic content women choose
• Wuthering Heights — referenced as non-explicit storytelling women seek out
• LAMDA (London Academy of Music and Dramatic Arts) — acting exercise of performing badly on purpose
• Sustain Release — music festival in New York
• Waking Life — festival in Crato, Portugal where Tay and Annette met
• Burning Man — Tay's story about serendipity in the line and "adventures for God"
• The Akashic Records — referenced in the context of living your life as a story worth reading
• Tepoztlan — mountain town in Mexico known for mysticism, healers, and plant ceremonies
• FLINTA — female, lesbian, intersex, transgender, agender
• Arousal non-concordance — the gap between subjective arousal and physical response, differs significantly between men and women