Listen as Gary discusses his newest book, The Sacred Search, (Zondervan, 2013). He challenges readers to think beyond finding a “soul mate” and to look for a “sole mate”—someone who will walk with them on their spiritual journey. Turning conventional dating wisdom upside-down, Thomas asks: What if there’s no such thing as “the one”—there’s something even better in God’s plan? What if being “in love” isn’t a good enough reason to get married? What if God designed marriage to make us holy rather than happy?

The Sacred Search casts a vision for building a relationship around a shared spiritual mission—and making a marriage with eternity at its heart.