The Relationship Guy

Gaslighting


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This week, John talks you through the phenomenon of gaslighting - the practice by where minds are manipulated through negative means - how this can affect relationships and what we can do if we find ourselves on the wrong side of the practice.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

  • "Gaslighting" comes from a 1938 play called Gaslight, and used to describe a type of manipulation designed to invalidate you as a person.
  • If you find yourself on the receiving end of comments that fly against the things you believe are true, then you may be a victim of gaslighting.
  • Gaslighters are often not on a crusade to destroy you. They are merely using a nefarious strategy in order to make things easier for themselves.
  • Gaslighters have a "window of comfort" - a narrow, blinkered gap that is beneficial to the gaslighter as it restricts our view of the wider world. We can overcome by pushing to broaden this window.

BEST MOMENTS

'You may recognise such statements as "That never happened - you must be imagining it"'

'In essence this is a form of emotional abuse'

'You only remember a memory based on the last time that you remembered it'

'The law of attraction is at play here'

VALUABLE RESOURCES

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ABOUT THE HOST

I am John Kenny, The Relationship Guy - Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships.

Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.

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