There is a fascinating concept in pscychology, known as the Johari window. Sounding more exotic than it actually is, it is just a combination of the two names Joseph (Luft) and Harrington (Ingham) - the two psychologists who penned it in the fifties. Defined as 'a technique that helps people better understand their relationship with themselves and others', it is a simple, yet brilliant way of gaining insight into ourselves, using introspective techniques of discovering hidden aspects of the self.

We can find that we have inadvertently acted negatively towards another. If we knew ourselves better, we may never have taken that pathway. If that happened in a more serious way, says the Torah - an inadvertent murder could cause a person to go into exile, to a city of refuge. The only two ways out, would be the success of the avenger killing the murderer (outside of the city walls, obviously), or the death of the Kohen Gadol...

Fascinatingly, one of those 6 (or 48 -as we shall see - I am sure the relevance of that number has not gone unnoticed) cities was Shechem, a place marked out in history for its negative side. Yet Yaakov - 'the perfect one' - is described as arriving there in a state of perfection. There was no 'blind spot' for him to fall prey to. He had worked on himself to a level where every detail counted. That is also where where Aharon excelled. Every individual counted, as did their relationships.

Awareness of ourselves,through the lens of a Torah hashkafa, can certainly help our johari window develop to a better relationship with ourselves, consequently with others and ultimately with Hashem.