Avi Ben-Zeev, a London-based gay trans man and author, reflects on his journey from being assigned female at birth to transitioning, and the profound impact it has had on his life. Avi explores with Mary Adams the intersection of biological, psychosocial, and spiritual aspects of gender identity, emphasising the importance of the need for societal inclusivity. They highlight the significance of shared human experiences and of fostering a deeper understanding of gender beyond binary constructs. The conversation explores the complexities of identity, particularly around gender, emphasising the importance of recognising and respecting differences while avoiding essentialism, and understanding our essential unity, beyond gender. Avi’s book, Calling My Dead Name Home: The Trans Bear Diaries, is available here.