If you love this podcast, and you have not signed up for my free Get Cozy by Valentine’s Day Challenge yet, I want you to join us in my private Facebook group at this link forthwith!  ASAP.  We’re having a great time already.  It will be awesome for you whether your marriage is in serious trouble, or you just want to feel closer and have a lovely love day.

We’re swapping a few tales that wouldn’t be appropriate for this podcast’s clean rating just between us girls.

But it’s just barely started.  Still plenty of time to jump in! Each weekday between now and Valentine’s Day will have a journal entry, a wife dare and a short video with accompanying workbook page. You will earn points for posting accomplishments, supporting and inviting others and completing pages, toward winning prizes such as a smoking hot red nightie donated by Every Love Intimates and a fabulous bedroom game called Sheets and Ladders.

In this episode, I’m sharing a part of the training and challenge I did in our group yesterday, and remember that if you join, trainings and challenges like this will happen everyday this next week!

For today’s dare, I would like to give you the choice between two options, and I want you to carefully consider which one is most needed, and choose that one.  Here’s a clue: the one that seems hardest, that you don’t want to do, that’s the one you’re going to need to pick.  Isn’t life a stinker the way it always works out that way?

In our first training I talked about embodying the person you aspire to be right now.  Having that compelling vision and feeling the emotions of that elevated state is so much more effective for behavior change than trying to exercise willpower.

One of the dare options is to do something that the self you aspire to be would do.  Something that you will set aside time to do for yourself.

Taking actions to step into the identity and mission you are meant to take on in this life is not selfish.  It makes you into a more beautifully tuned and impactful instrument in the hands of your creator.

Selfishness is when you yield to those impulses that want to keep you small, stuck, comfortable and afraid.

What is your sense of I Am inviting you to do?  Go to the bookstore?  A book club?  Buy some paints and a canvas? Sing karaoke? Spend an hour at the piano?  Go buy some power tools? Volunteer at the food bank? Get a pedicure?

Having a project and a purpose, and letting your husband see it, has at least three advantages, that you can hear all about in this episode.

So please join our Get Cozy by Valentine’s Day challenge!

Can’t wait to see you there!