Get Curious, Not Furious

“Go away!” “I hate you!” Not exactly the words we want to hear from our child. But what if we looked beyond the words and got curious about what’s really going on?

In this episode, we explore why children sometimes push us away when they’re struggling, what this tells us about their developing emotional capacities, and how we can respond without taking it personally.

We’ll look at how to put the relationship first, and why these moments are less about rejection and more about a child needing help with feelings they don’t yet know how to manage.

Children experience a whole world of feelings, and learning how to make space for those feelings is an important part of growing up. In this episode, we explore what it means to come alongside your child’s emotions rather than trying to fix, dismiss or talk them out of what they’re feeling. We’ll look at why all feelings matter, how our response helps children make sense of their emotional experiences, and how staying curious and connected can help them feel safe, understood and supported. 

 Sharing toys and taking turns can be a big ask for little children. In this episode, we explore why these skills develop gradually, what makes sharing so hard, and how our expectations can match our child's developmental stage. Discover how to scaffold turn-taking, support your child as they learn, and stay curious about what's happening beneath the surface when sharing doesn't go to plan. 

From leaving the playground to getting ready for bed, transitions can be some of the hardest moments in your child's day. 

In this episode, we explore why transitions can be so challenging, why stopping one activity and starting another can feel overwhelming, and how attachment, predictability, and connection all play a role.

Offering practical, relationship-based strategies to make everyday transitions smoother—whether it's leaving the park, turning off the TV, or saying goodbye. When we understand what's behind the behaviour, we can respond in ways that help our children feel safe and supported, and make those moments easier for everyone.

We all have moments when parenting pushes us past our limit. In this episode, we explore what's really happening in our brains and bodies when we flip our lid, why it isn't simply a matter of willpower, and how understanding ourselves is the first step towards responding differently 

Drop-offs can be heartbreaking. Whether it's daycare, school, bedtime, or staying with grandparents, seeing your child cling, cry, or panic when you leave can leave you wondering if you're making things worse.

In this episode, we explore separation through the lens of attachment. You'll discover why separation can feel so overwhelming for young children, how their brains gradually learn to hold on to the people they love even when they're out of sight, and why "just be brave" rarely helps.

If goodbyes have become a daily battle, this episode will help you understand what's happening beneath the behaviour—and how you can support your child to hold on to your connection, even when you're apart.

Your child looks you in the eye and denies it. You know they're lying… so what now?

Lying can feel personal. It can trigger frustration, worry, or even fear that our child is becoming dishonest. But what if lying isn't simply about telling the truth or not? What if it's actually telling us something important about what's happening beneath the surface?

In this episode, we explore lying through a developmental lens—why children lie at different ages, what their lies are really communicating, and how our response as parents can either encourage honesty or push the truth further away.

You'll learn why curiosity is more powerful than punishment, how to respond in ways that help your child feel safe enough to tell the truth, and how moments of dishonesty can become opportunities to build trust rather than break it.

Because children are far more likely to tell the truth when they believe the truth is safe to tell.

Do you find yourself dreading mealtimes with your children? The complaints, refusals, the “I’m not eating that.” Food on the floor. Tired, hangry, grumpy children. You are not alone. In this episode we’ll explore what’s really going on at mealtimes and look at practical solutions to help ease the madness. 

Meltdowns, tantrums and big feelings can leave any parent feeling overwhelmed. In this episode, we'll explore how getting curious about what's going on for your child can open the door to greater understanding and connection and make day to day parenting a little bit easier. 

There’s nothing like an insincere “sorry” to get our hackles raised as parents. In this episode we’ll explore apologies – how to make them meaningful, and how to help our children own their inevitable mistakes and offer a heartfelt “I’m sorry”.