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The last episode in Christy Dragotta’s relationship series is not a recap—it’s a practical reset for every relationship that matters to you. If you want to stop carrying hidden resentment, repair what’s broken, and walk away lighter, this is the episode to save and actually work through.

Christy turns the final episode into homework that helps you take inventory of your closest relationships, identify what you’re feeling, and discern what needs to be forgiven, addressed, or released. Instead of vague advice, she walks you through a specific process for naming the first 3 to 5 people who come to mind, writing down the emotions attached to each relationship, and asking the Lord what to do next.

You’ll discover:

• How to do a relationship inventory without staying stuck in your head
• Why the “debt ledger” from the forgiveness episode matters, and how to use it again here
• When to let something go instead of confronting it
• When honest communication is the right next step
• How to make things right if you’re the one who caused the hurt
• Why a “ledger of rights” can retrain your heart toward gratitude

Christy also shares a real-life example of how trying to force forgiveness in the wrong way can actually create more confusion, reminding you that wisdom matters as much as honesty. She makes a strong case for doing the work carefully, prayerfully, and with humility—especially in the relationships that have the deepest roots and the biggest stakes.

If you’ve been needing a clear, faith-filled way to process relational tension, this episode gives you a framework you can return to again and again. Perfect for anyone who wants healthier relationships, a softer heart, and more peace in everyday life.

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When God is calling you out of something familiar and deeply tied to your identity, how do you know it’s time to leave? Christy Dragotta sits down with Katie Anne of Beyond Believing for a raw conversation about discernment, spiritual growth, and the kind of leaving that can reshape your life. 

What happens when a woman realizes the faith she built her life on is not the truth? Katie Anne shares the moment the “blinders” came off, how her divorce collided with a spiritual awakening, and why reading the Bible for herself changed everything. As Christy and Katie Anne trace her journey out of Mormonism, they unpack the first scripture that shook her certainty, the grief of rethinking everything she was taught, and the unexpected mercy of finding a Christian church that helped her rebuild from the ground up. If you have ever wrestled with divorce, religious confusion, or the ache of wondering whether God is actually as close as people say, this conversation will meet you right where you are.Katie Anne, host of Beyond Believing, shares how her podcast helps Christian women navigate divorce, trauma, and life transition by falling in love with God’s Word again. She opens up about studying biblical theology, learning the difference between Mormon doctrine and the Christian story of God, and discovering that the Bible is not a dead book or a distant rulebook, but living truth that speaks directly into pain, parenting, and peace.

You'll discover:

• Why Matthew 22 became the passage that cracked open years of certainty
• How “I think I might be wrong” became the beginning of freedom
• What it means to untangle biblical truth from Mormon teaching
• Why context, Hebrew, and Greek changed the way Katie Anne reads Scripture
• How she learned to parent her children with surrender instead of control

This episode also goes deep into the emotional cost of spiritual deconstruction. Katie Anne shares the grief, the confusion, and the loneliness of reexamining family history, church authority, and identity while raising five kids through divorce. But the heart of the conversation is hope—the kind that says God was never absent, never confused, and never late. If you need a reminder that the Word of God is alive, that peace is possible, and that surrender is not losing but finally resting, this conversation will strengthen you. Perfect for anyone navigating divorce, deconstruction, parenting, or a season of spiritual hunger.

Katie Anne is a certified life coach and host of Beyond Believing, where she helps Christian women navigate divorce, trauma, and healing through biblical truth.

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Reacting in the moment can wreck a relationship faster than the original conflict ever could. Christy Dragotta shares a practical, faith-centered way to choose response over reflex so you can protect your words, guard your peace, and handle hard conversations without letting pride run the show.

If you’ve ever said the wrong thing in the heat of the moment, replayed an argument in your head for hours, or walked away wishing you could do it all differently, this episode gives you a better path. Christy breaks down why emotional triggers hit so hard, how to spot the difference between being offended and being controlled, and what to do when you need a beat before you answer.

You’ll discover:

• How to pause without making the moment more dramatic
• Why a simple breath and quick prayer can change the entire tone of a conversation
• When to table a discussion and set a real time to come back to it
• How clarifying questions can defuse misunderstandings before they escalate
• Why asking, “What is this really touching in me?” matters more than winning the argument

Christy also goes deeper into the hidden roots behind our reactions—rejection, fear, shame, unmet expectations, and the temptation to use relationships to fill what only God can heal. She connects everyday conflict to spiritual maturity, reminding listeners that gentleness, self-control, and humility are not weaknesses but powerful signs of a life anchored in Christ.

This episode is especially for anyone who wants healthier relationships, better conflict habits, and a more grounded way to respond when tensions rise. If you’re ready to stop letting offense control your next move and start showing up with clarity, grace, and conviction, this one is for you.

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Forgiveness is not pretending it didn’t happen. It’s the hard, holy work of sending the offense away, releasing retaliation, and learning how to trust God again when your heart has been hurt.

Christy Dragotta sits down with biblical counselor and podcast host Mey Deras for a deeply practical conversation about what forgiveness really is - and what it is not. If you’ve ever wondered whether you’re dealing with a true sin against you or a wound that has been amplified by past pain, this episode will help you slow down, grieve honestly, and find clarity without rushing past the hurt.

You’ll discover:

• why forgiveness is often confused with reconciliation
• how to tell the difference between an offense, a preference, and a real sin
• why lament matters before forgiveness
• what Mey means by a “vertical commitment” to trust God
• how “holy imagination” can help you revisit painful memories through truth, not fear

Mey shares from 15+ years of biblical counseling, plus her own journey of learning how deep wounds, trauma, and perceived offense can shape the way we interpret relationships. She explains why “slapping Bible verses” on pain is not healing, and why the church needs more space for lament, validation, and gentle truth-telling.

Christy also opens up about her own experiences with offense, unhealed wounds, and the power of asking God to show up inside painful memories. Together, they unpack the cost of forgiveness, the difference between forgiveness and taking away consequences, and why real restoration takes time, humility, and the Holy Spirit.

Mey is a biblical counselor, Spanish-language podcaster, and founder of Los Detalles de tu vida, a podcast based on Psalm 37 and God’s care for every detail of our lives. She also leads an online forgiveness challenge designed to help women work through the heart work of release, repentance, and healing.

Essential listening if you’ve been carrying bitterness, trying to forgive too fast, or longing for a more honest and biblical path to freedom.

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Expectations can quietly poison your relationships, turning ordinary disappointments into resentment, distance, and pain. Christy Dragotta breaks down why unmet expectations can become a “death trap” for connection, and how to tell the difference between a healthy boundary and an expectation that needs to be released.

Christy uses everyday examples—dinner plans, texting, parking spots, roommates, and marriage—to show how fast unspoken assumptions create tension. She also shares a deeply personal story about her relationship with her father, the grief she carried for years, and the freedom she found when God showed her that some expectations were never hers to place on another person.

You’ll discover:

• Why resentment is often just unmet expectations in disguise
• How to recognize when a “good” expectation has turned into pressure
• What to do when your assumptions were never voiced out loud
• The difference between a reasonable expectation and one that belongs only to God
• Why high expectations of others often reveal unrealistically high expectations of yourself

Christy also shares the simple phrase that brought one school superintendent lasting freedom: “So what?” That mindset shift, along with “let them,” becomes a practical way to stop letting small frustrations control your day and your relationships.

If you’ve been carrying hurt, disappointment, or quiet resentment toward a spouse, parent, friend, or roommate, this episode will help you examine what’s really going on and give you a path toward more peace, better communication, and healthier love. Essential listening if you’re ready to drop the weight of unmet expectations and protect the relationships that matter most.

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In this episode of Get Honest, Christy Dragotta talks about how to navigate friendships when circumstances in life change. Whether it’s marriage, divorce, moving away, loss, or other major transitions, relationships can shift in painful ways — and this conversation offers grace-filled, practical wisdom for walking through it well.

Christy shares personal stories of loss, distance, and changing seasons in friendship, reminding listeners that not every change means division. Sometimes friendships simply look different, and that’s okay. With honesty, communication, compassion, and patience, we can love our friends well even when the relationship is no longer what it used to be.

If you’ve ever wondered how to respond when a friendship feels strained, distant, or changed by grief, this episode will encourage you to extend mercy, ask better questions, and trust God with the future of the relationship.

It’s a heartfelt reminder that there can be distance without division, and that grace makes room for healing.

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In this powerful and deeply honest conversation, Christy Dragotta sits down with Trace Urquhart to talk about marriage, faith, anxiety, and what it really means to surrender control to God. Trace shares his story of moving through the highs and lows of young marriage, the pressure of trying to “have it all together,” and the freedom that comes from shifting his focus from fear and ego to Jesus.They dive into the way expectations can quietly turn into resentment, why even good things like marriage and success can become idols, and how community, Scripture, and daily dependence on God have transformed Trace’s life over the past year. Trace also opens up about launching his podcast, Delight in Hardship, and the purpose behind using vulnerability to encourage others who are walking through pain, anxiety, or doubt.If you’ve ever struggled with loneliness in marriage, fear about the future, or the pressure to look strong on the outside, this episode will remind you that peace comes from keeping your eyes fixed on Christ. It’s a real, hope-filled conversation about faith in the middle of hardship and the beauty of a life fully surrendered to God.

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Submission is not a power struggle, and if you’ve ever been taught it as “women just say yes,” this conversation will challenge that fast. Christy Dragotta reframes submission from the ground up, showing why it starts vertically with God before it ever touches marriage, church, or anyone else.

She walks through Scripture from James 4:7, 1 Peter 5:6, Ephesians 5, Philippians 2, Acts 5, John 13, Luke 17, and more to show what submission actually looks like in real life - not as silence, not as passivity, and not as a license for control. Instead, she points to Jesus as the model: strong, humble, obedient, and fully yielded to the Father.

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• Why submission to God comes before submission to a spouse
• The difference between yielding and enabling
• How “servant leadership” looks when it’s real
• What biblical submission is supposed to look like in healthy marriage
• Why abuse is not the same thing as authority, and why wise counsel matters
• How Jesus’ example, from the upper room to the cross, defines strength under authority

Christy also gets personal about her own experience of wanting to return to church while her husband resisted, bringing clarity to a situation many women face but rarely hear addressed honestly. She makes the case that submission is never about becoming a yes-man or erasing your voice - it is about order, trust, and surrendering first to the Lord.

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Loyalty is not a personality trait - it is the difference between relationships that survive hard seasons and relationships that collapse under pressure. Christy Dragotta breaks down what it really means to be trustworthy, protect confidences, and choose an inner circle that strengthens your character instead of weakening it.

She unpacks Scripture-backed wisdom from Proverbs, 1 Corinthians, and the teachings of Jesus to show why a friend who "loves at all times" is built in the inconvenient moments - when life is messy, when someone is hurting, and when showing up actually costs you time, energy, or comfort. If you've ever wondered how to tell the difference between a fair-weather friend and someone safe to confide in, this episode gives you a clear filter.

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• Why gossip destroys trust faster than almost anything else
• How to respond when a friend betrays your confidence
• What it looks like to defend someone without covering up wrongdoing
• Why "bad company corrupts good character" is more than a warning, it's a strategy for choosing better relationships
• How to build a circle of friends who push you toward wisdom, not away from it

Christy also gets practical about the people you let influence you most - from close friends to voices you follow online - and why time in Scripture is the foundation for discernment, wise friendship, and a life that reflects Jesus. This is a direct, convicting, and deeply useful episode for anyone who wants healthier friendships, stronger boundaries, and a more trustworthy way of showing up for others.

Perfect for anyone rethinking their inner circle, healing from broken trust, or trying to become the kind of friend people can truly count on. If you want relationships marked by loyalty, wisdom, and real love, this conversation belongs in your queue.

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In this episode of Get Honest, we continue the relationship series by digging into a powerful truth: unresolved past trauma can quietly shape how we see ourselves, how we respond to others, and how we show up in every relationship.

Christy shares honestly about false identities, childhood wounds, hurtful words, and the ways pain can echo through friendships, family dynamics, marriage, and everyday interactions. She explores why forgiveness matters, how boundaries can protect your heart, and why healing often starts with recognizing the lies you’ve believed about yourself.

If you’ve ever felt stuck in old patterns, struggled with offense, or wondered why certain relationships keep reopening the same wounds, this conversation will encourage you to slow down, get honest, and begin the work of healing with God, wise counsel, and healthy community.

Key takeaways:

• Past trauma can create false identities
• Hurt people often hurt people
• Forgiveness is essential for freedom
• Boundaries can support healing
• Your true identity is found in Christ

If this message resonates, this episode will help you take the next step toward wholeness, peace, and healthier relationships.

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