Ep 416: Get What You Want With Charles Duhigg

Think about the conversations you have every day. There are the ones you have with your friends over coffee to catch up on life, the ones you have with a family member while walking the dog, and countless others throughout your week. While it may not seem like it, every conversation (yes, even the mundane ones!) is a negotiation, and once we have the skills to know which type of conversation we’re in, we can use every single conversation to better connect with those around us. 

That’s what Charles Duhigg argues in his new book “Supercommunicators: How to Unlock the Secret Language of Connection.” He shares the difference between the three different types of conversation, and why knowing which one we’re engaged in can make all the difference. 

In Mailbag, a listener asks about the red flags to look out for when choosing a high-interest savings account, and we hear from a retiree who’s wondering if they’re paying too much for private insurance. In our news of the week, we talk about what the Federal Reserve meeting last week means for your money. Additionally, we explore Unilever's decision to sell Ben & Jerry's, and how some families are handling the rising costs of storing frozen embryos.

Takeaways:

Every conversation is a negotiation, and understanding the different types of conversations can help improve communication.

Asking questions and using techniques like looping for understanding can enhance connection and understanding in conversations.

Acknowledging and embracing differences, including gender, can lead to more effective communication.

Investing in relationships and conversations is crucial for long-term happiness and success.

Chapters

00:00 News You Can Use

05:04 Different Types of Conversations

08:16 Neural Entrainment and Connection

12:34 Asking Questions and Looping for Understanding

30:02 Vulnerability and Gender in Communication

35:58 The Importance of Relationships and Conversations

36:48 Mailbag

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