Freedom to love and accept your spouse is based on your relationship with God!! Letting God's love and forgiveness for you (The Gospel) flow through you to others starting right in your own home with your spouse! Pray for each other and pray that the Holy Spirit help you move your marriage from performance to faith. Check out our resource "Two Becoming One" for more insight to this topic. https://www.christianfamilylife.com/cfl-store/