When Patrick O'Malley and his wife lost their infant son, his inability to "move on" challenged everything he was taught as a psychotherapist. The familiar "stages of grief" can trivialize our experience, mislabel it as a disorder, or press us to "get over it". It only worsens the suffering with shame and guilt when we don't. Embracing our loss and telling our story allows us to weave both our love and our sorrow fully into our lives.