When we have Rules - or any other form of structure to the dynamic - and one of those Rules gets broken, what are the consequences? Does it matter the nature of the infraction? Does every consequence have to be po-faced and serious?

Join Me as we explore how punishments and discipline can be expressed in different ways, and what the headspace of punishment is like for both sides of the D/s slash.

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OK, we have looked at protocol, but how is protocol implemented? And what about how behaviour is directed? Well, Rules are the basis of structure for the dynamic. But what do we mean by a Rule? What does it govern? What's the scope, context and meaning for them?

Yes, I capitalise Rule. And I commit a lot of other crimes against grammar, too, as you'll know from previous episodes. Sorry not sorry.

But Rules and the rituals that accompany them are how the dynamic - especially in the early days - gets a structure, a shape, and a meaning. Sexual and non-sexual, private and public. And sometimes, even across groups of like-minded kinky folks. 

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Ah, the BDSM collar; who doesn't want to earn one? But what do they really signify? are there different types? (yes)

And collars are only functional in the context of protocol, so let's have a dive into what protocol is all about, why it can and sometimes does make sense, and what all that Sir and Ma'am stuff is all about.

Protocol is a kink all of its own, but is also a tool for establishing the power dynamic. And like all tools, it needs to be used the right way.

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In this episode, we look at the archetypes that submissives present as. Not a one-size-fits-none, most actual people will blend some of these in how they are. But the archetypes give us a map to understand responses, reactions, behaviours, and the headspace that they are seeking from the Dom and from the dynamic.

Submissive archetypes, then, and how to identify, engage with and deliver a positive outcome for them. Well, a positive outcome for that aspect of them, at least... because in the real world a submissive will always be more complicated than that!

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D/s can be a language between two people, so what are the dialects that might be in place, and how do those nuances impact the perception and experience of that dynamic?

In this episode we delve into the various shapes and models for D/s, and look at the different headspaces that can be engendered through those different models in practice.

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Episode 4 ended as the scene came to a close, so now it's time for aftercare. Fundamental, but not everyone needs the same level, so what does good look like?

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So, negotiations and preparation have been done, and it's time to think about what happens in the scene. What planning needs to take place? 

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Better safe(word) than sorry...

Consent isn't just a simple yes, and when things go awry, it's always better to be prepared. Join Me as we look at getting ready to scene by understanding consent, setting the right safeword, and being prepared for when the unexpected happens.

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Yay, we want a Ds dynamic, and we even found someone to do it with!

Now what?

This episode looks at how to negotiate the bounds and structures of the dynamic. What negotiation is - and isn't - and how to shape that potential.

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Welcome. In this first episode, we look at what this podcast is all about, and cover some of the basics of BDSM dynamics

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