When you’re sharing intimacy with someone, do you really feel seen and valued? That’s the question we’re asking today. This could mean anything from your partner giving you a compliment or keeping the light on, to how you feel about each other in the day-to-day of your life together.

So much of what sex is doesn’t start in the bedroom. It starts with the relationship, the connection, the communication, and being on the same page with how you’re building your life together.

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It’s common to feel a strong urge for intimacy, but it can sometimes happen when sex is unavailable to you. The reasons for that could range from just being single to being in a committed relationship but your partner is ill or not on board. We’re going to talk about some simple things you can do to get what you want without having to feel like you’re forcing it.

While the need may feel sexual, it’s not always just a need for intercourse. There’s a lot of emotional needs that are tangled up in there as well that can be met in other ways. We’ll talk about navigating the world of dating apps, romancing yourself, and how to navigate what’s really underneath the burning desire to connect with someone sexually.

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What is attraction really about and why does it sometimes fade? How much of it is purely physical? That’s the topic today and we’re going to go deep into what magnetic attraction is and how to build it.

While attraction can often be considered mostly physical, true magnetism happens and stays strong when both partners are strong and sturdy in their own self-care, self-love, and knowing how to fill their own cup. We’ll talk a lot about what happens when people expect others to fulfill their needs versus how to keep themselves filled up in order to act with reciprocity.

True magnetic attraction starts with yourself.

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Today we’re visiting with Damien Bohler, founder of Evolutionary Relating, the art of relating that leads to so much possibility, so much potential, so much joy and beauty and love. Damien is a self-proclaimed pragmatic visionary. He has very big visions for where we can go as humanity, but he’s also fascinated by the day-to-day processes of getting there.

The way this works in relationships is like in construction. There’s an ideal sequence and process to building a strong relationship, but with the extra variable of both of you having a human consciousness.

In our conversation we’ll get into attraction, healthy and unhealthy attachment patterns, and the 4 pieces of Damien’s work: relating, attachment, polarity, and transpersonal. Damien hopes that by moving individuals past the basic evolutionary stages of relationships, that the impact will expand out to the world as a whole.

His website: evolutionaryrelating.org

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Instagram: @evorelating

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Sensual confidence - what is it, and how is it different from sexual confidence?

To start with, sensual by definition means to experience something through all of the senses. Having that radiance isn’t the same as flaunting your sexuality - it inspires respect and adoration rather than lewdness. The problem is, many women are told and taught to dim their light - for their own safety, of course.

When Natalie teaches sensual confidence, a big part of her sessions is training your body what safety feels like in order to allow the automatic trauma responses to loosen their grip, so the nervous system can relax. 

Insecurity is what holds many people back in the bedroom. When people are comfortable in their own bodies, it’s a lot easier to be vulnerable with someone else.

What is your current relationship to confidence in general and how you feel about yourself? We challenge you to take a vulnerable moment with yourself to really acknowledge your confidence  on a scale of 1-10.

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We’ve brought up many, many times the fact that emulating porn does not lead to good sex. In this episode, we’ll dig into why and what’s actually necessary for good, connected, intimate, quality sex.

The standard set by porn is unrealistic and not likely to give either party much pleasure. Although men are more visually stimulated, actually trying to follow the marathon pounding of porn isn't the same as good sex.

The biggest difference is that porn is highly theatrical. A good quality coupling comes from connection, presence, and fostering an intimate friendship with your partner.

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TRIGGER WARNING: This episode contains content involving sexual assault.

We’ve been hinting at a kink episode for several weeks now, so here it is! Kink isn’t necessarily the same as an inhibition, but the definition and expression varies from person to person. Kinks are rooted in our experiences in life and there are certain things that shift our attraction to one thing or another.

The world of kink isn’t a comfort zone for either of us, but in this episode we’ll explore what kinks are, where they may come from, and how to tell a healthy kink experience from an unhealthy one. 

Is this kink really serving you, or are you ultimately retraumatizing yourself? Is there complete trust and respect? Or is there something deeper that you need to heal within yourself?

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Today we’re going to get into where we can go with everything we’ve been talking about - and why we’re having these conversations in the first place. Play and pleasure so often get put last, but we’re here to help more people get more enjoyment, connection, love, sex, vibrance, peace and vibrance in their lives.

We have both learned a lot about ourselves and each other just since we started this podcast. We’ll talk about some of what we’ve discovered and the inner work we’ve done on ourselves as a result of our talks here. 

What’s the risk of not doing the work yourself? More disconnection and guilt, less enjoyment and pleasure. What is it that you really want and what’s in your way?

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For true pleasure to happen, connection has to be there too. One does not equal the other. Today we’re going to talk about how and why pleasure can happen more frequently and richly with better connection.

Disconnection can happen in a bunch of different ways:

• Avoiding the hard conversations
• Repeating the same dynamic in every relationship
• Having to “buck up” and “be a man” and avoid all feelings
• Avoiding someone else’s mess to avoid dealing with our own mess

When you’re with someone who is feeling triggered or messy, that’s the time to lean in with some curiosity and empathy so that they know that they are still worth of your love and attention. That’s the perfect time to practice your attunement so your connection will be that much stronger when things aren’t messy.

Your job this week is to find something a little messy in your relationship and approach your partner openly and constructively to work on making it better. Watch how much closer you get when you both address the mess.

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Today we’re getting into the concept of play and fun, both in the bedroom and outside. There are some things that get in the way of really having fun and exploring that we’re going to talk about today.

This can include:

• Compartmentalizing
• Lack of safety
• Lack of communication

Like almost everything we talk about, creating safety is key. If you feel safe, it’s easy to be in that fun, playful, silly, vulnerable state. If you want someone to feel safe with you naked, they need to feel safe with you clothed and just having a good time together. By choosing to be open to potential and playfulness, there will be more of that in our lives.

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