Getting Some Help Around the Damn House

What if your daughter’s coach is grooming her for a lifetime of underearning —and calling it “leadership”?

In this episode, I unpack a listener’s leadership challenge that started with something as simple as uniform selection—and reveal something much bigger and more damaging lurking beneath.

You’ll see how girls are often rewarded less for their performance, and how those small moments of “sacrifice” can set them up for a lifetime of financial inequality.

We’ll break down why talking about feelings isn’t enough, how to get your hands around the real “dead raccoon” stinking up the storyline, and why sharpening your leadership point is essential before you step in and say anything.

Most importantly, you’ll get some solid tips on how to name the win so that all of us—including our daughters—can sidestep the traps of unfairness and build the leadership skills that lead to true equality and lasting success, both at home and at work.

Ladies, it’s time to get a little ticked off. Why? Because outrage is the fuel for change—and this episode shows you how to harness it.

You’ll hear why “asking questions so someone else makes the point” is a form of anti-guide grooming.

You'll also hear how women at the top of the "female empowerment industry" aren’t suffering from this affliction, even as they’re dishing it out to everyone else--and making millions in doing so.

I’ll reveal how the so-called “women’s empowerment industrial complex” creates a two-tiered system of leadership trickery—enriching some women while robbing others of their primal leadership power.

Most importantly, you’ll learn why, in certain cases, getting fired up is the first step to curing what I call "leadership osteoporosis"—holes in your leadership backbone that drain your energy, money, and authority.

And you’ll hear an example of a powerful acknowledgment and apology that fills those holes and puts you back in the strong stance of a true Good Guide Leader.

If you’re ready to stop deferring, stop waiting for someone else to lead, and claim the leadership power that moves your family—and your career—forward, this episode is for you.

Are you asking questions when you should be making points?

If so, you didn’t arrive at this practice all by yourself. Women are trained to “ask instead of lead,” and that advice is gutting women’s leadership like a fish.

In this episode, I share big leadership lessons that will help you turn this around.

We cover how to speak with power on the storyline, including the night-and-day difference between naming the win (which opens a path of possibility) and shaming the win (which undermines the very people you’re trying to help).

Through a listener’s real-life leadership challenge, you’ll see how problems of stance and skill tangle together and keep women stuck in low-profit homes and low-profit careers.

You’ll also learn how men naturally use this leadership muscle—and how women are groomed away from it, and why that's one reason the men are still running the world.

If you’re ready to stop playing small, stop deferring, and claim the primal leadership power that is your birthright, this episode is for you.

What happens when “leadership” gets confused with making top-performing girls sacrifice for the sake of others’ feelings?

In this episode, I share a listener’s real-life story about her daughter’s basketball team—and a coach’s controversial decision that left the A-team with ill-fitting uniforms so the B-team could pick first.

You’ll hear the listener’s thoughtful reflections on how this sets the wrong standard for girls, dampens motivation, and creates entitlement instead of true leadership.

She also raises concerns about power dynamics between coaches and players, the gendered double standard in youth sports, and big questions about what we call “leadership” and how misguided standards take root.

Tune in to hear the full problem, straight from a listener who’s navigating it in real time. Then, in the next few episodes, we’ll use Good Guide Leadership to unravel this problem for the benefit of everyone involved.

Are you ready to train your brain to think like a hedge fund manager, so you can end the second shift and finally get some help around the damn house?

In this episode, I show you how to develop the powerful leadership skill I call High Profit Thinking.

You’ll hear how Dr. Michael Burry, M.D., of "The Big Short" fame, and Beth Harmon in The Queen’s Gambit, both used this exact skill to see the path out of chaos and into success.

I’ll break down why most people fail at the “brain gym” workout that is High Profit Thinking, and the three hidden traps that keep women stuck in low-profit homes and low-profit careers.

You’ll also learn the importance of strengthening your leadership, by using your leadership leverage, and why some people are reluctant to use their power to lead.

Tune in to discover how High Profit Thinking can transform not just your home—but your career and the future of your family.

How many times have you heard, "But no one else in this house cares about the mess"???

This episode discusses the exact path out of this problem.

It all hinges on the skill of High Profit Thinking, and in this episode, you'll get examples of how this helps you, both at home and at work.

You'll also see the off-the-charts value of taking things up a notch, and operating your home with a standard for order and cleanliness that some might call, "ridiculously high."

The moral of that discussion? When you create a home that's sparkling clean and clutter-free. It's not just about how that makes you feel--although that's one benefit.

It's also about what happens in your mind, and your career, when your home is maintained and operates at a standard that absolutely delights you.

If you’re tired of playing the role of pushy salesperson or angry fishwife in your own family, because "no one else cares about this stuff," this episode gives you the bird's eye view of the skill you need to shift the dynamic, for benefit of one and all.

Tune in and discover how High Profit Thinking can transform your home life and support your career success.

Does it sometimes feel like other women are secretly undermining your leadership? In this episode of Getting Some Help Around the Damn House, I peel back the layers to reveal the hidden ways this sabotage shows up—and why it keeps women stuck playing for flimsy feelings instead of solid outcomes.

Here’s what you’ll discover:

• How to spot the almost invisible ways women undermine other women in leadership.
• Why this is a direct contributor to the gender earnings gap and gender wealth gap
• Why this “guide shaming” by women is more pernicious than when men do it.
• How to avoid the leadership quicksand that drains your authority, energy, and income.

If you’re ready to stop pulling your points and start leading with power—in your home, your career, and your life—this episode is a must-listen.

Feeling crushed by back-to-school chaos and the endless mental load? You’re not alone—and it’s not a scheduling issue. It’s a leadership problem.

In this episode, I reveal the litmus test for leadership osteoporosis—the hidden holes in your backbone that silently drain your energy and your bank account.

You’ll see how “playing for feelings instead of outcomes” keeps women stuck, while men keep running the world.

And most importantly, you’ll learn how to strengthen your leadership at home, reclaim your time, focus and energy, and start building a High Profit Home (and career) that levels the playing field at home and at work.

Strong leaders have strong backbones—and in this episode, I show you exactly how to build yours.

You’ll learn my simple, two-step process to strengthen your leadership backbone, with precise examples of what works and what fails, and why.

I’ll also reveal why strengthening your backbone is the key to shifting the dynamics at home, improving your relationships, and putting you into the powerful position to effect change in your home and family.

Along the way, you’ll get eye-opening insights into how acknowledgement and apology can transform your leadership.

Most importantly, you’ll see how building your leadership backbone helps your family transform into a true “Society of Guides”—and why that’s such a powerful and delightful way to live.

Tune in and start leading with the strength that changes everything.

How do you reclaim your role as the guide in your home—and stop getting sidelined by “feel better” nonsense?

In this episode, I expose how life coaching has been hijacked by anti-guide grooming that keeps women stuck in low-profit homes.

You’ll learn why “gratitude for the mess” is not empowerment—and what real leadership looks like instead.

I’ll also walk you through the three core skills every Good Guide Leader needs, and why these three skills are the key to creating a turnaround in your home AND closing the gender earnings and wealth gaps everywhere.

Tune in, and start developing the leadership power that changes everything, at home and at work, and beyond.