Girlfriend, Let's Talk with Reva Hart

Girlfriend, let’s talk - Shalimar J

In this episode, Shalimar J reflects back on the catalyst behind Girl Embrace It TV. As it happens with any journey toward reinvention and growth, Shalimar found her spark of inspiration to pay it forward during one of her lowest points in life.

Shalimar explains how, at the same time she was going through her own dark path, she was seen as the voice of reason among her peers and, therefore, was the go-to-person for advice. Shalimar’s most common refrain for these struggling ladies?

“Embrace it. Girl, I get it, but embrace it.”

There came a point where Shalimar realized that God was leading her to create a platform and a brand where her message can reach more audiences far and wide.

Listen in as Shalimar goes on to share on how, as a result of following His guidance, Girl Embrace It TV came to be. She then describes how her faith carried her through an abusive marriage and her attempts to make ends meet while taking care of her children after her divorce.

As she explains, it all led to her outreach geared toward survivors of domestic abuse, My Scars Are Beautiful; They Are My Testimony, as well as many other initiatives going forward.

Here’s a glimpse of what you’ll learn:

● 03:11 The birth of Girl Embrace It TV

● 05:28 Navigating an abusive marriage

● 09:50 Shalimar’s temptation at her church

● 14:52 Struggling to take care of her children after the divorce

● 18:56 The birth of Shalimar’s outreach, My Scars Are Beautiful; They Are My Testimony

● 20:48 Shalimar’s other initiatives

● 22:33 The power of a testimony

● 27:59 Why healing is so difficult

● 29:42 How to get in touch with Shalimar

● 34:02 Shalimar’s upcoming projects

Key Quotes by Shalimar:

● We don’t wake ourselves. He does the waking.

● Never make anyone else’s sin be your sin.

● We can get so high and mighty, when God has done the good thing, we don’t even hear Him anymore. We hear Him when we’re low, and He knows that, but we need to be able to hear him at all times.

● A testimony is a powerful thing and testimonies help heal.

● The hardest part of getting over your it is the starting point of getting through it.

● Be confident in God’s plan for you, and He’ll do the rest.

Link:

Girl Embrace It TV

Girl Embrace It TV on Facebook

Girl Embrace It TV on Instagram

Girl Embrace It TV on YouTube

Girlfriend, let’s talk - Yolanda Mercer

In this episode, Reva speaks with Yolanda D. Mercer of Raleigh, North Carolina. She has a love of ministry, consulting, and coaching individuals to discover their hidden gifts. As a licensed educator, counselor, and minister, it is her passion to empower others.

She is also the author of three books: Hidden, She Serves: A Guide For Women In Adjutancy, The King’s Wife, and Breaking Up with Comparison.

Listen in as Yolanda discusses her own experiences with comparison, how being hidden prepares us for the unique journey that God has laid out for us, and how to overcome imposter syndrome and feelings of inadequacy.

Here’s a glimpse of what you’ll learn:

● 00:57 Yolanda’s background in education

● 01:55 Avoiding the comparison trap

● 03:29 Why you don’t need to worry about being a “late bloomer”

● 04:51 Allowing yourself to be hidden

● 07:45 What does it mean to be God’s masterpiece?

● 09:40 How comparison shows up in our lives

● 14:11 How do social events or platform comparison impact a woman’s self-esteem?

● 18:05 Is comparison a learned behavior?

● 22:46 How to get in touch with Yolanda

Key Quotes by Yolanda:

● I feel as though when you begin to compare your process to somebody else’s process, you really dishonor God’s plan for your life, because He is the one that created that plan.

● You’re not behind. You did not miss God. God did not forget you. A lot of times, we are just being hidden. I think people negate that moment of just being hidden and allowing God to prepare you and equip you and give you capacity. How can I prepare to become anything that I don’t even have the capacity for? I have to be hidden.

● We really have to be cognizant of the discernment between a door of convenience and a door of calling.

● When God sanctions something over your life, you cannot allow comparison to talk you out of it just because you are uncertain and a little fearful of what other people are doing.

● When we can shift what our eyes are taking in and filtering, then we can shift what is being placed in our spirit and close that door to the spirit of comparison.

● Be confident in God’s plan for you, and He’ll do the rest.

Link:

Reva Hart

Website: www.revahart.com

IG: https://www.instagram.com/reva_hart/

Yolanda D. Mercer

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Yolanda D. Mercer on Instagram

Reva hart, host. interviews Sia Moiwa. Sia is the CEO and founder of Instrument of God Ministries, LLC where she is called to inspire, motivate and equip Individuals that have been bound by the traumas of life to heal and walk into their God-given wholeness. While serving as a Certified Trauma Recovery Coach (CTRC), Sia’s clients have experienced tangible results including complete healing from personal trauma and the removal of cognitive blocks hindering success in their work, personal, and spiritual lives.

In this episode of 'Girlfriend, let's talk', Reva talks with Sia about the relationship traumas and how they define the way we live.

They talk……

● About Sia's Trauma.

● Is sex the definition of love?

● How much God loves you?

● The wish to escape reality.

● How to avoid self-sabotaging your own relationship?

● How God turn your pain into purpose?

Conversation Highlights:

[01:23] Why Sia choose to be the instrument of God? What made her become a trauma coach?

[05:38] Why ME?Why my life has to be this way? How are we the instruments of God?

[07:28] What is Relationship Trauma?

[14:03] Why it becomes difficult to trust others? Why it doesn't feel safe?

[18:13] Healingfrom the past traumas.

[20:11] How does trauma affect our relationship? Why is it as lethal as cancer?

[26:33] Taking the leap off the edge after surviving 37 years of trauma!

[31:10] How believing in God helped Sia to heal from her trauma?

[35:35] The beauty of surrendering yourself to God!

Remarkable quotes:

"Every child needs something different."

"I knew that I was choosen!"

"Understanding the cause give me a greater understanding of how much God loves me."

"Your life is not worth your pain."

Remember: GOD WILL NEVER FAIL YOU!

Connect with Sia

● On Instagram

● On Facebook

● On Twitter

● Sia's Website

Connect with Reva

- On Instagram

- On Facebook

- Reva's Website

Tune in for more episodes.

Blossoming in times of hardship and depression with Dr. Crystal Lewis

Joining me on the show today is Dr. Crystal Lewis.

Dr. Crystal is a mentor, author, motivational speaker, singer and change agent. She’s also a minister in teen leadership programs and church events.

She’s passionate about helping people connect with God and pursue a purposeful life. Dr. Crystal uses Christianity as a tool to inspire and motivate all her readers and followers.

Her book, The Diamond Transformation - How to Survive and Thrive in Tough Times is an inspiring biography of her life in school and how she persevered through dark times in her life.

Dr. Crystal’s Life Journey

An introvert at heart, Dr. Crystal enjoys listening to women empowerment podcasts, karaoke singing, and journaling. All of which she finds therapeutic for herself when she’s drained as a result of work.

Life, however,hasn’t always been easy for Dr. Crystal.

About 9 years ago, she was accepted into Stony Brook University to pursue a PhD in Chemistry.

Everything was going great, and life was a roller coaster ride for Dr. Crystal.

All this took a sudden flip when a tornado hit the campus she was studying at forcing her to escape campus and seek refuge somewhere else.

During the chaos, Crystal lost a lot of important personal files and documents.

Her Naturalization certificate which proves her American citizenship was one of the documents she lost.

In order to claim her fellowship and scholarship, Crystal needed her original Naturalization certificate.

In the midst of trying to find a solution for her problem, Crystal found herself drowning in despair and hopelessness. Everyone she turned to for help turned her down.

It was during this dark period of her life that Crystal had a conversation with God and wondered if He still had a purpose for her amidst all the darkness she was in.

Thankfully for Crystal, He did.

God wanted her to know that He had set a diamond in her which He was soon about to unleash. And this was the  reason God was putting her through the pain and sadness she was going through at the time.

The Diamond Process.

At one point in our lives, we’ve all felt stifled and stuck in a hard situation.

Stage 1: Positioning.

In the first stage, diamond is actually graphite. Similar in life. We might feel like we’re in a crisis and that God has completely forgotten us by placinging us and our family in an isolated position of failure.

Stage 2: Processing.

During processing, the graphite goes through intense heating and pressure.Just as in life, God through His tests, places us in intense and hostile environments to enable our growth.

Stage 3: The plinian eruption stage.

In this stage, the diamond travels through a Kimberlin pipe and beaks. You’ve probably heard of the saying ‘It’s darkest before dawn’. 

Keep standing and praying.

Quotes

Connect with Dr. Crystal

Website - https://crystalslewis.com/

Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/10155192115441953

Twitter - https://twitter.com/DrCSLewis

Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/ms_cslewis/

Joining us today is Marva Goss, a women sales coach who strategies in helping business owners in increasing their income and making an impact.

Marva’s Background Story

An Air Force alumni, Marva deviated from the military as a way to be closer to her daughter.

After getting married to a military man, Marva was blessed with a girl in 2014.

Marva decided it was time for another switch. Life coaching was the new path she decided to take on. Whilst taking her course on becoming a life coach, Marva learnt so many business tips, strategies and ideas on how to start and grow her life coaching business.

Working as a Sales Coach

With so much information available online, it’s very easy for you to get lost whilst trying to learn and implement the tips you get from the different blogs, courses and email subscriptions.

As a sales coach, Marva helps her clients grow and establish their businesses by looking for areas of opportunity that provide a pathway for more clients. This can include strategies such as Social media marketing, email marketing, website content and handling discovery calls.

Leveraging your Mindset as an asset in your business and life.

A former client of Marva had a lot of self limiting beliefs and practices. Because of this, her business was very stagnant and her income stable at a small to average level.

Why men are so successful as compared to women in careers and business ventures

Marva argues that there’s 2 very important factors that largely contribute to this;

Timestamps

(1:00) Marva’s career background

(5:00) What sales coaching is all about

(8:24) Pitching potential clients into business with you

(10:01) The horrible reputation that’s associated with Sales

(11:00) The importance of positive mindset in business

(14:35) Why paying for something is more beneficial than getting it for free

(16:18) How and why men are more successful in business and careers

(22:09) Overcoming challenges in life and in business

Quotes

When your mind goes up, everything else in your life, including your business, goes up.

There’s only a ceiling if you feel and confess that there is one. - Marva on why you shouldn’t limit what you can achieve in business and in life.

The transformation is in the transaction. When people put a value and invest in something . they put in the work that’s required to be successful

Connect with Marva

Website - https://www.marvagoss.com/

Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/marvagoss/

Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/marvagoss/

  Amy Axby a.k.a "Lady the Fearless" gives the audience an insight on FEAR, what it does to you and how you can get rid of fear. From the experiences Amy has she will give the audience an insight to what she had to go through because of fear. Amy also shares the fact that she hates human trafficking and that she had no idea at the beginning that a blog could help her to fight against human trafficking. Don’t miss out this interesting episode as both Reva Hart and Amy Martin enlighten us on FEAR.

 Quotes:

 -“If you wanna blog about something that makes a difference, blog about something that is the root of every temptation we face which is ‘fear’.” 

- “Be strong, fear not. Behold your god will come with a vengeance, he will come save you.” 

- “Rest is a Weapon" 

Time segments: 

· [00.00.39] – Introduction of the guest, Amy Martin by Reva Hart. 

· [00.03.02] – Amy answers why she is also referred to as “Lady the Fearless” as well says that she hates human trafficking.

 · [00.06.35] – Sharing her idea on “How to conquer Fear”, Amy also says that she had to undergo counselling for anger management and that she had depression.

·  [00.10.22] – Amy shares with the audience the worst panic attack she had to undergo due to the feeling of fear that she will have to choose one of her children. 

· [00.14.44] – Amy says living in the present moment for her is ‘walking and talking with God’.

 · [00.15.39] – Amy emphasizes on the three voices she feels everyone hears.

 (1-voice of the enemy, 2- voice of God and 3- our own thoughts)

 · [00.16.20] – “Difference between fear and nervous” is a word game according to Amy as they all are synonyms for fear. 

· [00.24.48] – “Rest is a weapon and rest is strength. Rest is the opposite of fear” 

Scripture reference:

Isaiah 35:4 "Say to those who have an anxious heart,“Be strong; fear not! Behold, your God  will come with vengeance, with the recompense of God.  He will come and save you."

1 John 4:18 : "There is no fear in love. ... For fear has to do with punishment, and whoever fears has not been perfected in love."

2 Timothy 2:7  "Consider what I say; and the Lord give thee understanding in all things." ... The Lord will help you understand all these things."

Guest Bio: 

Amy Martin, is a woman who once let her fears run her life. Over the course of time she fought against her fears and won over them and this victory led her to inspire a lot of people. Amy created a website of her own named “lady the fearless” so that she can help people who let fear control them. Resources: 

Official website: http://ladythefearless.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ladythefearless/?fref=ts 

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