There are a million issues that girls go through in their teenage and even early adult years.  One of the issues I dealt with was having a major crush, or "being in love" with someone who didn't have the same feelings that I did.  Another issue facing us is wanting to belong.  In high school, there are always those groups of girls who are the most popular.  They tend to be the prettiest.  They have all of the clothes you would love to have, but you either can't have them for one reason or another.  Or you know you just won't look as good as they are.  These issues tend to eat away at our self-esteem and our confidence.  We begin to wonder why we weren't born with the great looks they have or the bodies they have and the great clothes and everything else they might have.  With think about these things and then we start to obsess about it.  The more you obsess, the more depressed you get.  The more depressed you get, the more you obsess about these things.  What you are feeling is completely normal.  And I want to emphasize to you is that you have a choice in the matter.  All you need is the will power.  I can tell you from experience that if you face the fact that you are never going to be with the person you are attracted to at that moment, you will muster up that will power to get over it.  So, it is up to you to continue to obsess or you can break the vicious cycle and turn your attention inward.  And I know how incredibly hard that is.  You need to trust that I am telling you all of this from a place of experience.  Being obsessed with someone who does not have the same interest in you is heartbreaking.  It tears you apart.  And yet, you torture yourself with making sure you are at the same place they are.  You may text or contact them on social media looking for any clue that they feel the same way.  Then you start to wonder all over again why they don't like you or are attracted to  you. 

Once you are able to put a little bit of focus inward, and you keep working at it, you find it becomes easier to change your focus all together.  That is why personal growth is so incredibly important.  It teaches us that we are worthy.  It shows us how great we really are.  It gives us the information we need in order to do what we need to do to get to that place where we are ok with ourselves.  And once you take that first step in personal growth, it becomes easier and easier to shift more and more of your focus to where it should be – with you.  And when you get to that place, you will feel the bliss of knowing what it is like to not care about what other people think.  You only care about what you think, and maybe some people who you are extremely close to, like family.

Breaking free from this pain and that vicious cycle is the single most liberating feeling there is.  And I promise you that changing your focus will be one of the best decisions you ever make.  And the biggest side effect of this is having a happy, blissful and balanced adulthood.