Today I learned I have to give unconditional love. I’ve noticed a pattern that happens when I proceed in courting a girl. Everything will be going great for the first week. Conversations are great, the excitement is high, and the relationship looks like it’s going to be very fruitful. But then suddenly out of nowhere the girl grows contemptuous towards me. She’ll act with complete disinterest towards me. The girl who not just a few days ago was the apple of my eye will purposefully do things to evoke a negative emotion from me. Seeing this pattern occur over and over again it frustrated me a lot. I felt it was unwarranted. I felt it was childish. Seeing this pattern occur over and over again discouraged me from meeting my goal of finding the right girl for me. But it dawned upon me that there had to be some sort of solution to this problem. There was a reason I kept facing up against it. I wondered what that reason may be? As far as I can tell I think girls put up these sudden emotional barriers to save themselves from potential heartbreaks. I think that they do this with the half hope that you will somehow figure out a way pass their guarded heart. I beleive this because women in general are not as resilient as men. A guy could go throw a heart break, feel wrecked, and eventually dig himself out of the pit and decide to love again. Though it’s common for women to go through heartbreak and be forever cynical towards the opposite sex. It’s cliche, but it is astounding how this plays out in reality. It’s astounding how this trickles down from mother to daughter. It’s more interesting how this cynical feeling towards men in the hearts of single mothers creates an underlying tension between single mother and fatherless son. It’s unfortunate. One man’s poor decisions negatively effects his woman and children. Something to think about. I think this is why I keep coming up against this sudden emotional barrier. The last girls I made fair attempts at courting did not have good relationships with their fathers. I learned that from their actions, way of dress, and from their lips. It seems as though they’ve been let down by a man before so why let it happen again? The solutions that come to mind is to give unconditional love. Give strong, unwavering, truthful love. Give the type of never ending love that a father would give to his only daughter. It sounds easy but it is harder than one would think. In my experience in attempting to give unconditional love you get stinged. You get toyed with, you get made a fool. It is discouraging to say the least particularly when you have the purest intentions. On my first attempts I said forget it. But after awhile I realized two things. I realized that giving unconditional is a discipline. It’s a muscle that if it isn’t constantly exercised it will be weak and unable to be utilized, especially in times when it is needed the most. The second thing I realized was that unconditional love is the rarest form of love there is. That’s no surprise. The level of difficulty it is to be somebody who loves no matter is something that has to be decided. The vast majority don’t really make that decision. But the funny thing is unconditional love is what everybody wants but yet only a few people actually give. I at first doubted that I could be somebody who could give unconditional love. But then I detached from myself and asked “Could my son be someone who loves unconditionally?” and the reply was instant “Yes, because he can do anything he puts his mind too. He’s that type of kid.” So that’s what I’m going to do. Easily the most difficult thing I’ve ever done. I have to practice acts of unconditional love on a daily basis so when moments call for it I’ll be prepared. This means being stung, rejected, toyed with, and ridiculed on a consistent basis. But I think with time the receiver of that unconditional love will feel its sincerity. Will feel its warmth.