Whenever I see a negative trait in someone else, it is a direct reflection of how I view myself. So when I see someone and I go straight to judgemental thoughts, really, they are my insecurities I feel about myself that are surfacing. I may be filled with jealousy, ego, envy, maybe that person is our friend who talks too much or who is so selfish,  it isn’t because that person are all of those things, it is because I am. I am missing something within me to give full compassion towards that other person.