Teen behavior doesn’t always make sense. And if you have a teenager in your home… you know exactly what I mean.

All teen behavior is goal- oriented. They behave certain ways because they’re trying to reach their goal… and meet a need. That doesn’t mean we can always understand what they’re doing or why they’re doing it… but it does give us a foundation from which to start.

Begin by thinking through the needs. What is it your child longs for? Maybe he just wants someone to notice him. Perhaps she wants to cover up private pain or find a measure of peace. Take time to examine your teen’s hidden motivations.

Don’t be distracted by the way they behave … even if it doesn’t make sense. Instead, look for their heart-felt longings!

 

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