How to get real traction on our goals. We need traction because we save goals for the things we can't just pull off. We often think of goals as hard. What does hard even mean? Can you tell me why your goal is "hard" without using the word "hard"? Is it awkward, time-consuming, not what you expected? Research shows when you think something is easy but can't do it you think there's something wrong with you. If you think it's challenging, you're willing to persist longer. Reframing a "hard" goal into a "challenging" goal inspires motivation and persistance. Research also shows that when we are stressed, we are less persistent when unexpected challenges come up. They also found that if you have a sense of control, that the stress doesn't matter as much anymore. If we want goal traction, we have to make an effectual struggle. We need to choose action steps that will actually move you toward your goal, not just randomly in the vacinity or topic of your goal.   The final principle for goal traction is the positive psychology principle that No One Is Coming. No one is coming to rescue you. No one is coming to change your life for you.