In the last chapter of his Gospel, Matthew says the apostles struggled with doubts and disbelief for days and weeks leading up to Ascension Day. Mark, Luke, and John do the same. But why?

Because we need to remember what doubts and disbelief feel like. They’re natural, normal, and yet awful feelings. So awful we tend to react negatively when others tell us that they’re experiencing such feelings. Yet Jesus wants us to remember: This is what doubts and disbelief feel like. Don’t forget it. And don’t come down on anyone who’s already feeling awful. Listen. Love. Let them talk. Allow them to see Jesus in you. At the right time, when you are the quietest, the Holy Spirit will speak truth and comfort to their soul. Watch and bear witness as their faith reemerges and grows stronger and more robust.

Yes, it’s hard to listen and remain quiet, to watch and wait. Yet when it comes to our friends who struggle with doubts and disbelief, it’s not our job to change their hearts. Instead, let’s invite them to read one of the four Gospels with us, and watch them fall in love with Jesus again.

This is Andrew Palau.