What does God intend love to look like in marriage? In Colossians 3:19, Paul continues his address to Christian households with a word for husbands to love their wives, and he uses the word 'agape'. This is a self-denying, others-honouring, sacrificial love that is possible only through God, which He himself first demonstrated by sending Jesus to die for us. Now He longs to empower husbands to love their wives in the same way He loves His Church.