This week, Erica and Milah link up with their Black Effect Network cousins, AJ and TamBam from We Talk Back Podcast, for a conversation about dating YNs, ghost sex stories, living with your partner, and how to stop settling for bullshit.

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Jamaica, Ganja Goddess Retreat - April 17th- April 22nd

Whether you're seeking relaxation, adventure, or simply a sexy fun time, the Ganja Goddess Retreat promises an unforgettable experience of empowerment and sisterhood. Join us as we celebrate femininity, wellness, and the magic of Jamaica's natural splendor at the Ganja Goddess Retreat.

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This week, Good Moms sit down with Tabria Majors and Mindy from The Thick Podcast and talk  about evolving through different seasons of life. 

Mindy opens up about overcoming religious and cultural guilt to embrace her sexuality, while Tabria shares what motherhood has taught her about balance, body image, and letting go of perfection.

Timestamps:

(08:20) Mindy on coming out and shedding Christian and Caribbean guilt

(9:00) Dating soft men and the double standard around sexuality

(18:22) Making out with your friends

(24:00) Tabria on postpartum, motherhood, and identity after modeling

(30:34) Bad Choice of the week, setting emotional boundaries with friends

(40:00) Navigating conflict within friendships

(45:00) White grandma gets 3 monkeys tattooed on herself to represent her mixed-race grand children

(55:23) Whorie Segment

(58:00) Tarot Segment: Six of Wands

(1:02:12) Affirmation:

• Don't stress over the things you can't control
• Scrub A Dub, Double Scrub, leave me the fuck alone
• Everything I desire, desires me

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The Black Effect Presents... Good Moms Bad Choices!

Motherhood doesn’t mean losing your identity, your sensuality, or your freedom.

This week, Erica and Milah confront the outdated “perfect mom” stereotype and challenge the idea that motherhood means: dressing conservatively, hiding your sex life, or being ashamed of smoking weed.

This episode is a reminder that you can be a loving, responsible parent and still show skin, smoke a blunt, and have good sex. It’s not about being reckless, it’s about being real.

You can expect to hear:

• The biggest lies society tells about “wild moms”
• Why it’s perfectly fine to smoke weed
• How to survive your hoe phase after motherhood
• The importance of showing kids how to properly clean themselves, even if you need to include props and Nutella
• Why Banana Republic and kitten heels might be a crime against moms everywhere
• The line between freedom and “put some damn clothes on, mom!”

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Option 1: July 31st- August 5th

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This week Good Moms explore when it's worth working through challenges in a relationship vs. leaving, why we could all use a bit more discernment, and why you should reframe your natural gifts whenever you feel "stuck".

Timestamps

• (04:00) Women oversharing, friendship advice, and relationship “discernment”. Sometimes, you just need to listen and shut up.
• (10:00) Why we've normalized complaining in an effort to not sound braggadocios
• (35:00) Cardi B’s Guinness World Record & Celebrity vampires
• (27:30) Bad Choice of the Week
• (29:00) Getting scammed by "Chelsea Handler” // Costa Rica
• (35:40) Would you be mad if your partner gave another girl $1,800 
• (46:00) Jimmy Kimmel is back but it’s still F**K Disney
• (50:10) Whorie Segment: threesome + rock-paper-scissors condom battle
• (54:00) Tarot Segment: Two of Wands is a reminder to embrace new opportunities and trust your intuition. This phase will require planning, clarity, and stepping out of comfort zones if you’re making a career or life pivot.

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This week, Good Moms unpack the mix of gratitude and outrage that comes with living in the U.S. right now. The ladies debate male + female friendships, confess childhood traumas that resulted in jealousy triggers, the thin line between pretty privilege and “pretty punishment”, and how new moms can still get that BAG! 

Timestamps:

• (02:15) Collective breath & why America feels like “four years in ten months”
• (11:40) Jimmy Kimmel
• (21:05) Passport fears, censorship, and prepping for worst-case scenarios
• (28:30) Gun laws, self-protection, and Milah’s “everyone should carry” take
• (34:50) Male best friends, fake “sis” energy, and testing relationship trust
• (52:23) Bad Choice of the Week: secret Cash App confessions
• (1:05:12) Cardi B’s pregnancy reveal + the grind mindset inspired by grandmothers
• (1:21:48) Pretty privilege vs. pretty punishment, colorism, and ageism in dating and entertainment
• (1:44:10) Non-toxic nail care: press-ons, glue hacks, and the $20 manicure debate

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What does partnership actually look like when you’re not trying to lose yourself in the process?

This week, Good Moms chat about  the pressure of “wife duties,” keeping intimacy alive, the lifelong classroom of mother–daughter relationships, and how to balance it all.

You can expect to hear:

• (04:30) Victoria’s Secret lies, and why pregnancy boobs are both the best and worst.
• (12:15) Pregnancy brain and "deleting" o r “missing years” of early motherhood
• (18:40) The weird things no one tells you
• (26:00) Talking to your mom as an adult, and realizing you’ll always be her “child” no matter your age.
• (42:15) Moving in with a partner: why Mila suddenly feels like a housewife now that Orlando’s back in the workforce.
• (56:20) Erica’s story of caring for a sick partner and questioning how ready she really is for “in sickness and in health.”
• (01:05:00) ChatGPT defines “wife duties” (and the ladies call BS, while making it way funnier).
• (01:15:00) How to keep sex and passion alive in long-term relationships and why Milah refuses to accept the relationship park dimming/dying.

(01:33:00) Tarot time

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Shout out to all the elderly bad b*tches! 

This week, Good Moms explore what it means to revisit old passions with fresh eyes, the importance of community support when stepping into new (and old) chapters of your life, and the reality of balancing dreams with everyday responsibilities. 

Timestamps:

(02:10) gray hair, and the quest for youthful vibes  

(10:35) Erica’s return to acting: first in-person audition in six years  

(18:45) Wrestling with rejection, pressure, and rediscovering joy in creativity  

(26:09) Tabitha Brown is rightttttt, some of you need to keep that job, no shade! 

(27:00)  How openly sharing fears and progress within supportive communities (like our "Girl Guess What?" Discord channel) helps sustain motivation and combats the loneliness inherent in creative work.  

(34:20) Conversations with kids about dreams, affirmations, and fear  

(35:48) Saying YES to delusion but also saying YES to reality! 

(36:33) RIP BADDIE WINKLE , that baddest old lady on the net! 

(42:15) Embracing imperfection: why the process beats perfection every time.

43:52- Why the ages 35-40 are critical for your geriatric bad bitch-dom! 

(46:30) Milah is getting an age change

(47:22) CLT + ALT + DEL Theory 

(52:23) Bad choice of the week Segment

(57:30) Tarot Segment

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This week, Good Moms question if we're all raising tech-addicted children, why it might be worth ditching the nail salon and switching to press-on nails, and the importance of surrendering to the mess and simplifying your life.

Timestamps: 

•  (01:20) Back-to-school chaos + surrendering to the mess
  • Co-parenting differences: Kids act more independent at dad’s houses, while moms sometimes overcompensate.
• (7:55)  Tech-addicted kids and why boredom is healthy
  • Rethinking education and self-learning. Traditional schools are designed to make “worker bees” vs. “free-thinkers”  
  • Good Moms want to implement tech-free hours but admit it’s hard to enforce.
•  (37:13) Beauty standards, gel nails, and DIY deodorant
  • Gwyneth Paltrow and the "Goop" Empire  
  • Europe bans nail polish chemical over health concerns, U.S. still allows ingredient
  • Erica shares about the DIY deodorant she tried to make using natural ingredients 
  • Non-toxic swaps that actually make sense (01:15:00) 
• (40:06) Love Island reunion, colorism, and reality TV brain drain
  • Reality TV Stars and Their Long-Term Plans (45:50)
  • Brittany Renner family drama (48:26) 
• (1:01:00) Good Vibes Retreat
•  (01:39:00) Affirmation + tarot: surrender to the mess, embrace abundance

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💊Take your Vitamins! 💊

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What does it look like to heal your relationship with your mom while raising a daughter of your own?

In this episode, Good Moms reflect on healing alongside their mothers, the challenges of letting go of old patterns, and the unexpected lessons that surface when you start to see your mom as “just a girl” too. They talk about caretaking, validation, breaking cycles of criticism, and the emotional labor of holding space for the women who once held it for you.

Timestamps

• (07:45) The power of staring into your mothers eyes
• (19:20) Seeing your mom as “just a girl” and shifting the dynamic
• (28:10) Mommy-pleasing, validation, and unlearning criticism
• (40:30) How childhood patterns reappear in adult relationships
• (01:05:15) Paul Pierce comment showcases:
• How harmful it is to assume women’s value in relationships is tied to beauty or “submission.
• The flawed idea that dating a so-called “5 or 6” guarantees loyalty or effort.
• How men with this mentality often avoid women with opinions or standards because it forces accountability.
• Why choosing a partner should be like choosing teammates for a strong family — you’d want someone smart, capable, and supportive, not someone you can just control.
• (01:18:00) Submission, gender wars, and questions about partnership
• (01:28:45) Ciara's interview on The Breakfast Club and what "corny" really means- Russell Wilson, Future, and what it means to lead a family
• (01:43:20) Ciara's perspective on choosing a partner with integrity

& remember... your mother is just a girl too!

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This week Erica and Milah are joined by artist, author, and one of the first guests on the show, Amina Buddafly. The ladies talk about why self-worth can’t be tied to a bank account, the truth about influencer finances, motherhood, and moving forward when life doesn’t go as planned.

You can expect to hear:

• The reset moms don't talk about and not being ashamed about starting over 
• Amina talk about moving her kids after eviction and starting over
• Breaking the silence around financial stress and survival mode
• Clearing the air on the Peter Gunz Dallas drama
• Why she has no regrets about Love & Hip Hop
• Knowing when compromise becomes self-betrayal
• When you don’t have space, you can’t create.

Share this episode with someone who may need to hear that financial struggle doesn’t define you and that sometimes, the bravest thing you can do is ask for help.

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🥰😝🍆 Spice up the bedroom🥰😝🍆:

LEXUS: An innovative couples' sex toy set that's designed to sync clitoral vibrations to your partner's rhythm and closeness. Its ergonomic design seamlessly enhances your intimate moments, heightening pleasure and deepening your connection without disruption. Check out using this link and thank us later!! https://feelrobotics.go2cloud.org/SHJM

Kiiro Toys: Theres something here for everyone, trust us!

------------------------------------------------

💊Take your Vitamins! 💊

In the spirit of growing up, it's also time for you to grow up and start taking your vitamins! Check out www.Blackvitamins.co and find the best vitamins for Black Women, by Black women. Use Promo code GoodMoms20 at check out!

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