Church is beautiful… and sometimes it’s unbelievably messy. In this Extra Shot, Cody gets real about church hurt, conflict, awkward conversations, and the kind of relational tension we all try to avoid—even though Jesus calls us to deal with it head-on.

If you’ve ever been wounded by someone in church, struggled with miscommunication, or avoided a conversation you knew you needed to have, this episode is for you. We’re digging into what Scripture actually says about reconciliation, forgiveness, unity, spiritual maturity, and how God uses relational friction to grow us.

This episode covers:

✅ Why church hurt is real—and why it affects so many believers ✅ How conflict and miscommunication shape Christian community ✅ Jesus’ clear instructions on who should move first in reconciliation ✅ The difference between peacemaking and peace-keeping ✅ A biblical framework for resolving conflict with humility and honesty ✅ Practical steps for restoring broken relationships in the church ✅ Why leaving a church rarely solves the real issue ✅ How God uses uncomfortable conversations to form Christlike character ✅ A weekly challenge that invites you to take one small step toward healing

With humor, honesty, and theology that doesn’t pull punches, Cody dives into the uncomfortable truth: Most of the pain in church is accidental—but the healing must be intentional.

You’ll hear stories about family communication (and non-communication), why avoiding tough conversations always makes things worse, and how even the bluntest families suddenly go silent when it’s time to talk about the Christmas gift exchange budget.

This episode will help you:

• Navigate conflict without bitterness • Approach others with grace and truth • Stop waiting for the other person to “go first” • Grow spiritually through relational tension • Learn why reconciliation is core to the gospel • Find peace through obedience, not avoidance

Whether you're navigating tension with a friend, a ministry leader, or someone you’d rather avoid in the church lobby, Cup 7 gives you biblical clarity and practical steps for walking toward unity and healing—one humble conversation at a time.

Perfect for: Small groups, pastors, ministry leaders, anyone experiencing church hurt, Christians wanting deeper community, or anyone needing courage to take the first step toward reconciliation.

Pour a cup, lean in, and let’s talk honestly about what really happens when the Church gets messy—and how Jesus meets us there with grace.

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